what did you learn the hard way?

That’s not always true. That’s just your experience. @cherokeepatti

@Spoiledbrat Well it was in my experience and I’m not going to trust them again.

I don’t blame you. I personally don’t know who to trust because someone spread rumors about me to my family. I believe it to have started with my husband’s family. But the bottom line is I don’t trust anyone as a result and don’t speak to them either. I think they just wanted to fit in, and we weren’t close in the first place so was easy for them to betray me. (My family). I’m sorry that happened to you. It sucks when that happens. It’s like what the heck. 😳 jeez. Try being nice to people and they take the road that is most beneficial meaning I get screwed. I guess I’m supposed to feel bad. Well I did but because I really couldn’t tell you what happened. I’ll have to go the rest of my life wondering if I actually got harassed stalked and emotionally manipulated and RAPED or am I just [i]crazy[/i]. My husband accused me of being bipolar because I kept accusing his family of harassing me because they kept doing it behind his back. Then he denied saying it. I think because he doesn’t want to upset me. I wasn’t though. I just told him that I don’t have bipolar disorder 😂. He doesn’t think his family is capable of what I accused them of and they absolutely are. @cherokeepatti

@Spoiledbrat I helped my sister nearly every day for a year and a half and she turned around and started gaslighting me because I wouldn’t take her to the casino so she could gamble what little bit of money she has. I figured she was going to lose her money, boo-hoo to me & hit me up for money to replace it. (I knew by then she was playing games) Then she starts saying I need to go get mental help after me helping her for so long. That was it with her. Someone else remarked after it was over that she could have been dangerous in a variety of ways and I agree.

Just knowing that someone is mad at you, whether or not it’s warranted, is one thing but crazy making is a whole other story. I didn’t know if I was in danger but I started having intrusive thoughts and nightmares and developed a fear of getting to know people. I was okay talking to strangers. I still jump when I hear loud sounds. I can never forgive what they did to me. 🙂 I don’t wish this on anyone, certainly not you. @cherokeepatti

@Spoiledbrat She can set up a scenario to make herself look like a victim and cause legal problems for people...get them fired from a job or evicted from an apartment or whatever. Dangerous in several ways.