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TheThinker · 56-60, M
Yup, at least three times, here are the major ones.
First was sexual (or should that be asexual?) as after a wild first six months we never had sex - or even hugs! - for the next six years.
Second was emotional, just lots of repeated verbal abuse and undermining of me, topped off with a final two years of no sex (which she refused to explain until after I'd left her, apparently she'd convinced herself I was having an affair, which I absolutely wasn't) and one episode of her physically attacking me whilst drunk.
Third was a girlfriend (unlike the other two we never lived together) who kept dumping me then asking me to get back together two days later. After she'd done it seven times in an otherwise-wonderful 18 months I told her that she was emotionally abusing me and that the next time would be the last. She didn't believe me and did it again. End of story.
There's been others but generally brief things where I saw the warning signs early and got out quickly.
Believe it or not in amongst that lot I have actually found time to have a couple of reasonably healthy relationships (one of which I'm still in) but I do seem to have had more than my fair share of disasters.
First was sexual (or should that be asexual?) as after a wild first six months we never had sex - or even hugs! - for the next six years.
Second was emotional, just lots of repeated verbal abuse and undermining of me, topped off with a final two years of no sex (which she refused to explain until after I'd left her, apparently she'd convinced herself I was having an affair, which I absolutely wasn't) and one episode of her physically attacking me whilst drunk.
Third was a girlfriend (unlike the other two we never lived together) who kept dumping me then asking me to get back together two days later. After she'd done it seven times in an otherwise-wonderful 18 months I told her that she was emotionally abusing me and that the next time would be the last. She didn't believe me and did it again. End of story.
There's been others but generally brief things where I saw the warning signs early and got out quickly.
Believe it or not in amongst that lot I have actually found time to have a couple of reasonably healthy relationships (one of which I'm still in) but I do seem to have had more than my fair share of disasters.