Why does the older generation resent the younger one?

It's so typical to hear they hate that they had to do a thing in their day and don't want their own children to have the freedom not to do those things now that they're no longer necessary.
Had a father complaining about his daughter being vegetarian, his response "Well I had to so she should have to as well". You didn't like being controlled by your parents so you choose to inflict the same control over your own. You'd think it would be the last thing any empathetic parent would do to their child.

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StokedFox · 36-40, F Best Comment

I had the advantage of having to parent myself, because I knew the things my parents did were very wrong. My life always felt wrong until I had my son.

I feel like his biggest supporter in this society. I scoff away a majority of the expectations, treat him with patience, kindness and even/especially respect. He's not spoiled, or mean, or loud, or gross, or out of control. I teach him, I spend all my time with him. And I don't do it to be the opposite of my parents either. I do it because I want to send a good person out into the world and I want him to be happy and resilient.

It's sad to see him get treated like an object by others. An annoyance. A, thing. I don't know what is happening with people and rearing children these days but I see it and I wonder how it will effect the future. Change is inevitable. Evolution. I gotta help my boy be strong. Not squash him into a cage and get mad when he bites back.

JovialPlutonian · 36-40, M

@StokedFox this was very nice to read, encouragement is so powering. I wish all parents would do the same.

StokedFox · 36-40, F

@JovialPlutonian thank you. Kids are so naturally cool and curious, they're wonderful. I also look really young and older people call me a baby or a novice almost daily. They really have no idea how tough my heart is and what it's been through. It's blatant disrespect and a need for power that can destroy sacred bonds. What are we teaching each other?

JovialPlutonian · 36-40, M

@StokedFox fear