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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Ugh ! Yes. Twice !
First time was a 'fix up' by 'friends'.
They did kinda bombard me with 'you'd be really good together...' Type chat.
We met at a restaurant (never do that. Half hour in you can be really sorry you came and you still have to wait until you've finished your meal before making your excuses to leave ! Meet at a bar for a drink. You can be done in half an hour if it doesn't feel right)
She spent almost the entire time talking/complaining about her recent ex.
Only so many times you can commiserate before it becomes clear this person isn't ready to date !
And the second time was as part of a 'Speed dating' thing.
For the uninitiated this is a room full of 'singles'. Ladies sat at tables. Guy approaches; introduces himself; sits and chats with lady for two maybe three minutes before a bell rings and the guys have to move on to the next table.
Both guys and girls have something of a 'scorecard' where you 'rate' your conversation out of 5 and at the end you fill in something like a 'request form' noting those you'd like to know better.
They do the same. And those running the event go through them all and try and put people together.
......Might be just me (cynical old boy that I am) but I don't think I'd ever met so many liars in one place !!!
Some folk clearly disinterested.
Some folk swearing they were single.....yet wearing a wedding ring !
Some clearly looking for a meal ticket ! Let's just say it didnt encourage me to want to try again.
First time was a 'fix up' by 'friends'.
They did kinda bombard me with 'you'd be really good together...' Type chat.
We met at a restaurant (never do that. Half hour in you can be really sorry you came and you still have to wait until you've finished your meal before making your excuses to leave ! Meet at a bar for a drink. You can be done in half an hour if it doesn't feel right)
She spent almost the entire time talking/complaining about her recent ex.
Only so many times you can commiserate before it becomes clear this person isn't ready to date !
And the second time was as part of a 'Speed dating' thing.
For the uninitiated this is a room full of 'singles'. Ladies sat at tables. Guy approaches; introduces himself; sits and chats with lady for two maybe three minutes before a bell rings and the guys have to move on to the next table.
Both guys and girls have something of a 'scorecard' where you 'rate' your conversation out of 5 and at the end you fill in something like a 'request form' noting those you'd like to know better.
They do the same. And those running the event go through them all and try and put people together.
......Might be just me (cynical old boy that I am) but I don't think I'd ever met so many liars in one place !!!
Some folk clearly disinterested.
Some folk swearing they were single.....yet wearing a wedding ring !
Some clearly looking for a meal ticket ! Let's just say it didnt encourage me to want to try again.
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MsDelaware · 41-45, F
I have never done the speed date thing but always thought it sounded interesting. Really glad to hear someone’s experience about it however I’m sorry it didn’t work out. Now as for the blind date from ur friend, I agree if all she could do is complain about her ex then she certainly wasn’t ready to date again.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@MsDelaware The thing is, few people it seems can be completely open and honest to strangers. Certainly in a romantic context.
And I get that ! Why exposé your vulnerability when you can treat the whole thing as a laugh ?
It's the rare few that are, that make something like that worthwhile I think.
And I get that ! Why exposé your vulnerability when you can treat the whole thing as a laugh ?
It's the rare few that are, that make something like that worthwhile I think.
MsDelaware · 41-45, F
Makes a lot of sense. I agree! Very well said! @Picklebobble2
Thingschange4444 · 56-60, M
I've met 2 people from a dating site but we'd chatted sent pics of each other so we kind of knew what to expect. Both good experiences.
Thingschange4444 · 56-60, M
@MsDelaware Thank u.
MsDelaware · 41-45, F
@Thingschange4444 smart idea as to why you wanted to meet people from out of the city so you could avoid random awkwardness.
Thingschange4444 · 56-60, M
@MsDelaware That was my aim yes. 🙂 So. Have u got a blid date lined up? Just wondering what prompted ur Q?
SW-User
I went on a blind date when I was 15. I met him on summer vacation.
The 3 best months of my life. He was the loml. But we lived in different states. I seen him again the next 2 summers. Then we both married other people. Then I got divorced and it was years later and I seen him again. He divorced shortly after. Then we dated for about 6 months and he got sick. He needed a bone marrow transplant. They never found a donor in time and he died. I was totally heartbroken. I loved him for years.
The 3 best months of my life. He was the loml. But we lived in different states. I seen him again the next 2 summers. Then we both married other people. Then I got divorced and it was years later and I seen him again. He divorced shortly after. Then we dated for about 6 months and he got sick. He needed a bone marrow transplant. They never found a donor in time and he died. I was totally heartbroken. I loved him for years.
MsDelaware · 41-45, F
@SW-User he lives on in your heart. But yes I am sure it’s hard. *hugs*
SW-User
@MsDelaware yes he does. He will always be in my heart. He was my first love. And the best.
MsDelaware · 41-45, F
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️@SW-User
booboo · M
Yes, i was an ass...she deserved so much better
MsDelaware · 41-45, F
😂😂😂😂 I applaud you for your honesty 👏👏👏🍲@booboo
booboo · M
@MsDelaware 😕
Serenitree · F
Not quite blind. We had never met, but had spoken on the phone.
Serenitree · F
@MsDelaware I was too, but he told me the first time we spoke on the phone that he only had six months left in Montreal. And that was a couple of weeks before he asked me out. So, our time was short, but, because it was, it was that bit more intensely exciting and sweet.
MsDelaware · 41-45, F
@Serenitree well I am glad you still had a great experience with him. At least it wasn’t a huge shock.
Serenitree · F
@MsDelaware nope. No shock.
frequentlyme · 70-79, M
Once, and although we didn't necessarily hit it off, it was pleasant. We both agreed that while it was enjoyable, that there was no chemistry.
MsDelaware · 41-45, F
@frequentlyme oh ok well glad it still was a nice experience. Yeah chemistry is definitely important.
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
They were all good and productive😊
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
No lol never 😊 but if you chat for a while you fo get a feel how the person is
MsDelaware · 41-45, F
Oh yes I do believe that! @Justenjoyit
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
I am just me always you get what you see good or bad lol