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Why are some people so brutally blunt and insensitive about death of loved ones?

My mom got killed by a drunk driver last Wednesday so four days ago and I AM DEVASTATED. My dad is heartbroken and so are my brothers. My close friend bluntly told me, "Look everyone DIES ok?! People die so there's no reason for you to be sad! You can't be sad all the time. We're ALL going to die and she is dead. Get a grip, put your big girl panties on and move on. Sorry, but there is no point of being sad all the time about your dead mommy."
My guy friend said, "Look once someone is dead, their dead. Can't wish for them to come back. Besides your mom won't wanna come back. I don't mean to sound harsh but who wants to go back and suffer? Stop crying, you're 31. You don't need mommy anymore. Buck up will you?" And shoved me hard and stormed off. I MISS THE HELL OUTTA MOM. My dad said, "In heartbroken but we still gotta keep going. No use to walk around depressed. She isn't coming back."
My dad wasn't mean but why were the others mean?! I laid in bed all weekend.
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JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M
Would you mom want you sulking about her death like this?

Or would she prefer that you celebrate her life, and learn from what happened to her?

There is such thing as unhealthy mourning. It sounds like you have poeple in your life who are trying to give you tough love.

You are luckier than you know.
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SassySpiceSexy · 26-30, F
@JoeyFoxx TRUTH!!!!! She needs to hear it. Her mommy wouldn't want her to be all depressed and mope all day. It isn't worth it
JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M
I’m certainly not expecting you to “just get over it”

That’s not how it works.

But you will need to learn to cope, and that won’t happen while sleeping the day away.

When someone dies, life goes on.

Do not disrespect your mother by ceasing to live your own life because she lost hers.

@EmotionalMotherlessWoman1988
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