What’s your stance on this?

No thanks.

I would tell the couple to plan a less expensive wedding.

Then I won't be attending.

I wouldn't go to the wedding.

No, thank you. I plead poverty.

I'd agree, so long as they pledged to return the value of my tax plus 25% in the event of them breaking up.

Wow! That sounds a little crazy. I would consider that THE GIFT

Most of the last few i was supposed to go to . Started making expensive demands . 🤷‍♂

I've not heard of this, but rarely get invited to a wedding. In the UK some couples have their hen and stag parties abroad and then the wedding as well. Can you imagine the cost of attending both? And then a gift or cash expected.

They would have one less 'guest'.

I wouldn’t even go then

Nope... I'm not paying no "Invitation tax" - I'm fine with missing out since parties are a minefield for me anyway. Why should I pay to spend the night hoping and praying that I don't end up in anaphylaxis???

See ya after you're married, Mr & Mrs Smith...

I wouldn't show up. Or I might send them an estimated bill re how much my fee for attending would be -- payable prior to my actual attendance, of course. My time IS valuable.

Good and fast way to be EX-friends.

This is just a rather expensive dinner where I can’t even choose the menu.

I wouldn’t go .

I think I'll be busy that day

I think they want to have their weddings alone. And they should.

I didn't want to go anyway 🤣 id rather do what i want to do on my time off honestly.

"Awe shucker darns, I'm going to be out of town that week."

I've heard of a lot of people doing this and even trying to make it MANDATORY that everyone give a gift of 250-400$ or a gift of equal value (basically they're trying to force you to pay for their honeymoon, or reimburse for what they paid) and i feel like that's so dusty.

Large grand weddings are a luxury thing. Nobody HAS to have one. And when your friends and family come there, sure it's customary to bring a gift, but even if they can't they still came to celebrate your union of love. it feels so tacky to turn people away because you can't siphon money away.

Also the growing trend of people who have been accepting monetary gifts of large sums, canceling the wedding until further notice bc they're (stressed) and then keeping the moneys while telling everyone that they will hold a newer, bigger and more EXPENSIVE wedding later where they will demand more gifts and moneys. 😒 Ewws.

Things like that are why I've decided when it's time, we're going to the courthouse and then having a nice dinner afterwards. i don't agree with robbing your wedding guests

Disgusting. Weddings are out of control now. Couples are now dictating what should be worn by their guest too. Maybe people should concentrate more on their marriage instead of their wedding.

I think it’s stupid but not surprising. With Ali’s wedding I got to see how much what used to be your average sort of wedding costs now and it blows the mind, but this generation doesn’t often accept that they can simply do less or have less. If it won’t be pinterest perfect it’s not good enough so they would rather resort to charging guests than having a simple day. Any kid of mine would be getting a stern talking to if they suggested such a thing. 😂

Weddings are a total ripoff in the first place without this bollocks.
The crap that people buy “for their special day” is incredible.

Crass.

Sounds like another reason weddings aren't my thing

Eww no

It only happens because they want a grander wedding than they can afford. There is absolutely no need to feed their ego by paying for it.

I think it's a sad indictment on how self entitled young people are today.

Ahh, a reason not to go🙂

So, we're Cypriot, and it's tradition that the bride and groom are gifted cash. Back in the day it would be pinned to them as they danced, nowadays it's handed over in an envelope.
My parents used the money to pay for their wedding and used the extra for breakfast the next day. This was nearly 50 years ago and they had over 500 people as guests.

These days it's big money. There's an unwritten rule that you give what you would pay for a meal out, plus. Last one I went to, was family, we gave 300. If theyre not family I cap it at 150.

But, no gifts or extra for tax

Charging guests is tacky in my view.

Absurd and frankly rather insulting.

That looks like trying to throw as big and ostentatious a party as possible, treats the would-be guests as sponsors and would seem more likely to result in a slew of polite declinations than of enthusiastic acceptances, of the invitations.

This is nothing but pure greed and entitlement to expect guests to pay for their wedding and then give them a gift as well. If they can’t afford a fancy wedding then they can plan a much simpler one or go before a justice of the peace or whatever.

That I wouldn't attend. As simple as that.

I think this is a scheme to keep the number of guests small.

The fewer the guests, the less the reception costs.

And maybe they'll have the reception at Burger King.

😂

It seems like they are getting married to get paid