What it mean of my doctor to call me fat?

I went to the doctor on Friday. My doctor is an "In Your Face" doctor. Like she will be on you and she is very strict. She got in my face flat out told me, "I have to be brutally blunt. You're fat. You are this close to diabetes, damn it! Lay off the junk food! Just lay off. You need to lose weight and your cutting is out of control. Stop that shit." I said, "I'm not fat! I'm just big boned." She said, "That's just an excuse. You are fat." I argued and said, "People are accepting bug girls! Also I-" she interrupted me and short back at me, "Unless you wanna keep making lame excuses and end up om the 600 pound life, I suggest you to care about your health." I couldn't say anything else. She really offended me and hurt me but she didn't care. I'm 5'3 and 266lbs. Was she right to call me fat? Doctors aren't suppose to body shame their patients. I don't know if I want to go back to that doctor. She is my primary care doctor unfortunately.

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bijouxbroussard · F

On one hand, what she had to say was unprofessional and hurtful. On the other, as your doctor she is responsible for your care and has no doubt seen the health problems that often result from the extra weight and is trying to wake you up so that you get a handle on it now, while you're a young woman. The fact that you are resistant and embracing the weight rather than helping her help you become the healthiest you can be is probably why she is being particularly forceful about it. From her perspective she may figure better to risk hurting your feelings now than have to give you bad news later about complications that will shorten your life.