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Nothing shorts out my autistic brain more than a last minute change of plans

I have a big day today, its the end of my course and we are having a big dedication ceremony and celebration. A lady from my course contacted me to ask if I'd like a lift there. I get nervous driving very far, so I accepted. I was relieved to have that part of the day sorted out.

She messaged late last night to say she wasn't up to driving, and could I drive her and pick up someone else she was supposed to be taking too.

She did the same thing once before. I just thought it was a one off.

It took me about an hour to get my shit together. My brain just shorts out and I can't get any sense out of it. I need to know what I'm doing as far in advance as I can. I envy people who just wing it.

She said she'd let me know if she was ok to drive this morning at some point. I booked my very expensive last minute train tickets already 😐

Like I wasn't nervous enough about today 😕
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being · 36-40, F
I'm glad you took the train and didn't offer to drive and go picking others too whilst you are not up to it.
Kuronekko · 41-45, F
@being She actually tried to make me feel bad for not picking up her other passenger 🙄
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@Kuronekko this woman was trying to manipulate you. You said she did this before, which tells me she offered you a ride fully intending on shifting the responsibility of driving onto you. She was hoping where she pulled this before, you would bend and just do it. I am glad you didn’t feel guilty and give in.

I’m sorry it threw off your day, but it WILL be ok and I am sure you will feel better once the day gets going and all is said and done
being · 36-40, F
@Kuronekko well ... focus on your task. Let her do hers. I hope you will go softly through your day and enjoy your ceremony :)