I think people come to sites like this a little broken, and even though I'd like to claim that I'm ok after everything that I have been through, I know that I have issues to work through. I suppose it is natural to talk about relationships because we deal with them on a daily basis. I suspect that - even for those of us who try - we are a bit narcissistic. We all take everything personally, and anything that your partner does is taken personally - even though their issues have more to do with their own struggles than they have to do with you. So, instead of loving themselves, people internalize the drama that others put out and begin to question if there is something wrong with them. ALSO, people tend to look for happiness as an external source, which is insane. Life guarantees you nothing but another hurdle, and someone can't make you happy. It is NOT my job to make my child, friends, husband - or anyone else happy. You have to be satisfied and capable of dealing with what is thrown your way. Happiness is a choice we make every day, and it is tough. So, I think communities like EP and SW offer an opportunity to vent, which we all need. But it has to be healthy. You have to let yourself FEEL what you feel, but don't get bogged down or stuck there. If it is legitimate depression - see a doctor, but otherwise, make a decision and move forward... fight for happiness. We need to hold ourselves responsible for our bad choices - even in relationships. People say - I don't know what happened. I don't know why he doesn't love me? Well, start making better decisions and love yourself. We get what we tolerate, and I know good and well that is why I am in my current station.
