Do you think going to a strict private school helps a childs behavior?

I've noticed an impressive change in attitude especially in mine after they were pulled from public school and put into a very traditional Christian school.

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

Might help get them away from the students who act out because their parents don't set boundaries or rules. I just had to tell a boy he couldn't play with the one I'm raising...he used foul language, chased him when he got off the bus and then kicked & hit him and kept acting aggressive. He's bragged about breaking another child's nose and threatening kids with a pocketknife. I think he has a mother who doesn't care.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@cherokeepatti: I think you might be right not only are the expectations higher and the rules stricter but there are less bad influences around

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Kathryn05: This child goes to a different school and it's probably an alternative school, he broke a kid's nose at a public school several years ago. When he comes home he looks for kids to play with and he's outside till dark, no homework or reading apparently. I feel sorry for the kid if his mother doesn't care but he needs boundaries away from the one I'm raising.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@cherokeepatti: Yes that is not the kind of kid you want yours to hang around with! I had to separate my oldest from a few friends last year that was partly why I put her in the school she is in now. She was running around with the wrong kind of girls

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Kathryn05: The boy tried to say mine kicked first but I know better, that kid will chase him when he gets off the bus because he doesn't want to play with him anymore. Plus using filthy language and saying his mother doesn't care. He tried to get him to bring my laptop outside a couple weeks ago so they could watch videos and then told him he didn't need to tell me, just go grab it.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@cherokeepatti: That does not sound good at all. I hope you can successfully separate yours from him

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Kathryn05: Mine doesn't want to be around him especially after he bragged about having a pocketknife and threatened other children. If he starts coming back and causing problems I'm calling the police and letting them talk to his mother. Probably won't be the first time someone has done that. He scared some little girls that live around the corner a few weeks ago.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@cherokeepatti: Yikes really does sound like a bad situation. I pray that things work out for you

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Kathryn05: I think if things don't change with that boy by the time he gets to be a teenager he's going to be bad news. He keeps saying his mother does care what he does, and with him being outside so much I think she wants him out of her hair.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@cherokeepatti: I think you're right there his mom probably can't handle him so sends him out to get a break. He will be a major headache though come his teens!

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Kathryn05: We have teens from about 8 blocks away in a few apartment complexes that come through this neighborhood at night stealing out of unlocked cars. The middle-school there is rated D on an A-F scale and I'm thinking it might be wise to move when this boy gets to middle school.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@cherokeepatti: From the sounds of it yeah if you can find a way to move I'd take it. That does not sound like the environment you want to raise him in

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Kathryn05: I think almost all the kids around here are nice enough, it's that one family. Seems like no matter where you live there's one (or more) in the neighborhood that has to be off.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@cherokeepatti: Sometimes yes and sometimes no. When you have an actual neighborhood not just a collection of families they pull together to help each other out and solve these kinds of issues as a community. Maybe his mom just needs some support?

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Kathryn05: I get the feeling she doesn't care...and at this stage in my life I don't feel like getting involved with someone else's problems, I've had to deal with too many of my own relatives and now I just want peace & quiet...I've had adrenal problems and don't need that stress.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@cherokeepatti: Oh I get that too. I was just saying it would be good for the community to come together not just you!

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Kathryn05: I guess they will when that kid hurts someone.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@cherokeepatti: Well hopefully it won't come to that he does sound like a kid who need professional help though

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Kathryn05: He's already in a different school so I think his mother has a clue. He never talks about having a father and I think that's a big problem.

Kathryn05 · 41-45, F

@cherokeepatti: Yes sadly a lot of these behavior issues come down to not having a male role model in their life