Is hating the hatred an effective way to conqour it?

I am seriously struggling with this paradox of sorts. I advocate for the liberal mind, for compassion and altruism, for tolerance.. but how am I to tolerate he who holds a begrudging hatred for me over the nature of how I lie? How am I to love THIS person as a human being? I don't. If it were in my power, I would change this person into having an evolved perspective and world view. Is that tolerant? Honestly, no, it's rather hypocritical of me, and confounding as well, because the line that they would draw and the line that I would draw are not even on the same plane.