Why do we refrain from telling children stuff we would call adult?

@LadyGrace how do you know? Is that not just an opinion? I appreciate you don't want to damage them but expressed with love, care and tenderness does this have to be the case that it's damaging to them?

@JovialPlutonian The reason I know, is because Dr. Phil has said this many times, and I've always felt the same. 😂 Seriously, the man is brilliant. I truly believe what he said, because I've seen kids grow up way too fast when exposed to adult issues, and some I know, never smile. It's just too much information, too soon. I say let them enjoy their childhood while they can. It's hard enough when they grow up. Besides, adult issues and troubles, are not to be placed on little shoulders who only get frustrated and sad about things they have no control over.

@LadyGrace I think for me it's more of the case that I feel ppl will let them be children in their eyes but when something does happen they won't tell them the whole truth. I believe this is not ideal and very confusing. As an example; adults will teach their kids different words for things because they find the words idk rude for the kid to know, like wonky or moo moo rather than just telling the child the actual name for the child. You don't have a moo moo you have a vagina. Why would someone do this to their child??? Do they want to confuse and embarrass their child. This is just one of many examples

@JovialPlutonian I understand. I think it depends on the situation. I still feel vagina is a bit over their heads. I just think there's a time for that, when it's proper. Dr. Phil thinks so, too. I feel that would be appropriate when they start asking deeper questions around 11 or 12, when they are starting to develop physically and sexually. I know little children see and hear adult things [b]way[/b] too early these days, as adults talk openly and even say the f word around them, which I find disgraceful. Kids can't seem to be allowed to be kids anymore. I've witnessed the outcome in through the years. They're not happy anymore. There's nothing wrong with allowing the children to keep the magic as long as they can, but in this day and age, that is sadly, rare.

@LadyGrace but why does it have to mean to lose the magic? Have you lost the magic. Is vagina such a difficult word for even an adult to accept? Isn't it that it is us that have attached negativity to these things when it truth there's nothing wrong with these things. I agree perhaps to educate them on these things when they ask. Is it not possibly the case that it is us that haven't learnt to deal with these things and in truth the child wouldn't no any different so it wouldn't be seen as negative? I'm not talking for all things but most certainly a lot of them.

@JovialPlutonian No. As an adult, there is nothing difficult about sex or the anatomy, however children are just not psychologically equipped for such issues. My question would be, why the urgency to tell them...for what purpose? Before this age, children developed with healthy minds and much less anxiety and depression. They did just fine without knowing adult issues. Then all of a sudden everyone was so anxious for them to grow up before their time. They lose their innocence that way. It simply wasn't meant to be. It totally messes with their mind. It seems the adults are the ones most worried about this, not the children. There's "nothing wrong with these things" when done in proper order and timing. I can't really go along with your last question. I'll have to close. My eyes are much too blurry. Thanks for an interesting chat.

@LadyGrace its not that there's an urgency to tell them these things as opposed to educating them when they ask as opposed to diverting them away from it. Aren't they ready when they ask?

Yes. I wonder how, and what they'll be told, though. 😊@JovialPlutonian

@LadyGrace yes and I thoroughly appreciate that, these days it is children educating children. It should be for the their elders to educate them as they have life experience where parents are still having their own. I was raised and educated mostly by my grandparents which is why I can see such a difference in my development.

@JovialPlutonian I was referring to how the adult will educate them and what they'll be told. Some people are just sick and pedophiles use that excuse to prey on children.

@LadyGrace yes but we're not referring to these ppl