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Know anyone like this? How do you deal?

There are people in this world with a very limited view of reality. If they are not affected by something, then the situation does not exist - for anyone - and no one should mention it.

Just for clarification, here are a couple of examples.

You say something like, " The garage door is not working correctly." But this person has never had it act up the couple of times they have used it, so they respond saying, 'That's all in your head and you obviously don't know how to use the opener". Yes ...I don't know how to push a button. 🙄 Now, no one can discuss it because isn't a "real" issue, until the whole damn thing stops working, the repairman has to be called, the entire system has to be replaced, and the bill is quite expensive. Whereas, if it had been addressed when it first got in a bind, it would have been easily and economically repairable.

Or if you say, "Something smells like burning plastic." But the person in question has little to no sense of smell, so again they respond, "That's all in your head. There's no smell." But you go on looking for the problem anyway and discover the issue within 2 5 seconds of burning the whole damn house down.

Like WTHF? How does anyone deal with someone who has that kind of mentality? I am at a loss. I am completely out of patience with the whole thing. My stress level is through the roof and I am over being disrespected and belittled.

Suggestions welcome.
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I'd hate to be treated that way so I understand your feeling angry and hurt. It may seem childish, but who cares...for the next few days I would start my sentences with that person this way, ''Hey, it's -all-in-your-head, there's a package for you'', ''Oh, it's-all-in- your-head, I'm going shopping''. You'll get a strange look from that person for sure and they might not even reply but if they have some brain inside their head, they'd figure out that you're sick and tired of their dismissive behavior and lack of respect and I have a feeling this would make them stop doing it.

It would be best though that you speak to that person and tell them exactly what you told us because they need to know just how much it affects you when they do this.
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@LilMissAnonyMOUSE I am not that passive-aggressive. I'm just blunt.

I tried the communication thing. That is a joke with this person.
@LadyBronte The objective of my suggestion is to make the person know what it feels like if the tables were turned and they heard those words from someone else, much like asking them ''Do you see how you really look to others?'' The point is to make them realize just how tactless they were behaving and hopefully, they'll stop doing it because they are being made aware of the situation. If they take it as a joke, then sadly, you're dealing with an emotionally immature person. Their dismissiveness and making another feel that ''no one can discuss it because isn't a "real" issue'' is pure gaslighting. Your question of, ''How does anyone deal with someone who has that kind of mentality?'' That's how I would personally deal with it if a person behaved that way with me. You say you are blunt and have tried communicating with the person, but if none of those have worked, I hope other commenters can give the answer you seek.
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