I Admit I Am Judgemental A Lot Of Times

I really try not to be but a lot of the time it overwhelms me. I mean I've never been attracted to pretty boys who fake tan and moisturise and dress sharp..but my real nemesis' are women who have overdone the hair and makeup and carry designer handbags and wear heels and talk about things I don't understand like the difference between bio and acrylics (WTF?) and which colour I need to wear with my skin tone and who drink prosecco with their little fingers aloft..
I can make chitchat with people like this but I don't want a full blown conversation..because a snobbish part of me writes them off as empty headed and shallow. I detest this part of myself-I always used to believe I wasn't a judgemental person but it's not true. Maybe they just intimidate me..or maybe it's the fact that I find it difficult enough to think AND make myself tidy and functional each day, so I choose not to believe they can fit thinking in with such a high level of aesthetic maintenance..
Whatever it is. I'm trying to change I really am.
I just don't think I'll ever get my head round choosing a sickly sweet 100%sugar dessert because it "looks pretty", when you could have apple crumble and custard.

JustNik · 51-55, F

I think this is all how you frame it. In some regard we are all "judgemental." We see certain people and can't relate to their priorities, don't understand their reasoning. And when it lies in such direct opposition to our own, that takes on a negative feeling. I honestly see no way to avoid this. We're all different. You don't treat them badly. You still manage the basic human courtesies and respect. Sometimes that's just going to be the best a person can do. The fact that you give this thought and wish you could bridge a gap we all experience makes you better than most.

room101 · 51-55, M

NIK, you're spot on. it's a basic instinct to evaluate all that comes our way. what matters is how we act once we've made that evaluation. particularly when it involves the more challenged members of our societies 😜

SW-User

@starry-that's a way to look at it thank you!
@nik-I suppose you are right it's inevitable..I've just started to detest sneering and this makes me sneer. I can actually feel my nose going and everything..😱
@Artie-ummm sorry the er dog ate it ..GREEDY DOG get back In your bed!!