@twistermind: Actually I am such a big teddy you would not believe it. I practiced Aikido from a very young age. It is entirely defensive. Not aggressive in any way. I have played many martial arts throughout the years and on of the things that it took me years of study to truly understand is why I train to fight.
Its so I never have to. In practice you learn about how to deal with attacks. Eventually you become so proficient that you are fairly capable. Eventually you respect human life to where you hope never to have to take it. If you are a true martial artist, you will identify ways to stop a fight even before it starts. If you can bring your opponent to see things from your perspective and you see from theirs there is nothing for them to attack.
If I make my enemy my friend, do I not destroy my enemy?