Well I tried

I met someone online after 4.5 yrs on my own and I can’t cope with the attention. I have gone from having nothing to someone that emails and texts 30 times a day it is making me ill. I did not realise there are worse things than loneliness.

It has proved to me I am not ready to give up a big slice of independence. I am not mentally or emotionally ready for it.

So confused right now. But I have been honest with them and explained how they have made me feel and told them i can not give them what they need. I feel selfish but it was the right thing to do for us both . 😔

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CookieCrumbs · F Best Comment

They say, "be careful what you wish for.."

Now you know what you like/don't like, what you're willing to do/give/give up.

Being honest is the only way to handle the situation. It's not easy. You'll offend them. But better they know where you stand than be misled that you're enjoying the (too much) attention they're giving you when you feel suffocated by it.

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

It’s not easy being honest, but best for all in the long run!

DaveE54 · 56-60, MVIP

@Quimliqer thank you

Sapio · 51-55, M

You went from one end of the spectrum to the other with no in between. The main thing is you were straight up. That's what counts, your honesty. Good on you!

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CookieCrisp · F

setting boundaries is a good thing, maybe worth thinking about.

DaveE54 · 56-60, MVIP

@CookieCrisp thanks

OlderSometimesWiser · F

Sounds like you went from one extreme to the other! Good that you were honest and know what you can and cannot handle. Hopefully there will come a time when you can find some type of middle ground with someone.

DaveE54 · 56-60, MVIP

@OlderSometimesWiser that is kind of you to say thank you

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