Having a first date and you can choose where to go. So?

@Carissimi , I get your point completely. But the option for a casual walk outside totally baffled me at how popular it got... Like I was thinking it can hardly surpass 15-20% at best! I gotta be too old for this casual meeting and would have never felt comfortable with it. ☹️

Why wouldn’t you feel comfortable meeting at a park or a coffee shop, or both? I suppose when I was young, I expected to meet a date in a pub, for drinks, and that’s how it was done back then, at least where I came from. As I virtually don’t drink, and there are no traditional English pubs around here, a walk, then a coffee sounds ideal to me, especially for a blind date, or someone you met on a dating site. That’s if I were dating. I’m not. @TheGreatGreyGuardian

@Carissimi , to point this straight - even not on a date, but just casually walking through the city I feel extremely uncomfortable among crowds, a lot of people. Feeling something like a pressure because of it. Can not describe it very well, it has always been this way for me. Then I am nervous at dates because they very rarely go good. And when you combine these two in one - voilà! Every public date becomes super stressful event for me where I try my best not to shake, stutter or panick and at the end I barely say a sentence because all my focus is to look after the aforementioned. I had a single date for the last three years and it was a catastrophe. Still can not recover and force myself to another one.

I’m sorry you suffer this way. I’m not keen on crowds either, and avoid them. You find you do better in restaurants? They can be full of people too. My last date was more than 30-years ago with my late husband. Going on a date after all this time, and in this modern culture when men expect hook ups, well, I couldn’t do it. I’ve been alone too long. It would feel alien to me, and stress me out. However, you are very young to be this way, so I hope you can overcome your fears. @TheGreatGreyGuardian

@Carissimi , thank you very much for the kind words, highly appreciate them! Yeah, restaurants are not a great option either, but at some weird times during the day they are fairly uncrowded. It has always been a huge problem to talk with people when they are obviously higher quality than me. And I feel that 97% are superior to me. Trying to manoeuvre somewhat around it, but with no avail honestly...