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Am I being too impatient?

I matched with this girl on a dating app mid December last year. We went on two dates, and then she traveled home for the holidays. During that time I tried to stay in touch but she replied me super late and eventually left me on read for more than a week. I assumed she lost interest and started trying to meet new people. Then in the new year I got some really good news and she replied to it to say congrats. I thanked her, and later that day tried to start conversation about something she posted. She replied to me two days later. At that point I was fed up and ready to not speak to her again. Then, a few days later she asked if I wanted to meet up and get coffee. I did, we talked for a little over an hour and then tried to make plans for a date on the weekend. I eventually texted her with concrete plans on Friday for the Saturday date, and she didn't reply till Saturday afternoon, saying she didn't feel great and would like to reschedule (but didn't offer a date or any specifics).

I'm just personally sick of the whole thing, I can't tell if she's interested and I'm running out of patience (feels like I'm playing games). I planned to just ignore her text/ghost, because I've been in situations like this where I feel like I'm being fed breadcrumbs or just strung along. But then again today she replied to something I posted even though I left her on read.

I'm struggling to feel interested knowing that communication between dates from her is near zero. But I also don't want to prematurely move on. I have since deleted said dating app because I feel like I'm running in circles.
IM5688 · 61-69, M
To have any successful relationship, you need a foundation to build on. You must have, what I call, the 3C's. Communication, Commitment, and Compromise.
Seems that you have the all 3 C's, while she doesn't. IMO, I'd move on and not waste my time with her.
black4white · 56-60, M
Just because the dating app says that she should be interested doesn’t mean she’s going to be head over heels for you the way you are with her.
Just let her know that you are interested in a date and then, when in person, ask her the same type of question that you have posted

Maybe she requires or prefers person to person versus texting
somedude15 · 22-25, M
@black4white I'm definitely not head over heels for her lol, if anything I've mostly lost interest. And yeah I guess that's a sign of incompatibility for me if she isn't willing to text in between dates
black4white · 56-60, M
@somedude15 looks as if you answered your own questions 😂🤣😂

Good Luck

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