I think people who hate men or women

Because of their past shouldn't be dating them. In my experience they end up taking it out on you in one way or another. You should address those issues in therapy first, because that other person isn't your idea of "men" or "women", they're a person who doesn't deserve that.

It's sad that we tend to pass our hurt along, but that's why we need to work on ourselves first if that is the case.

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SW-User

What if it’s that very reason that brings two people actually together… their damaged parts

What if that was the reason that ultimately brought them to be closer in ways that what’s on the surface couldn’t touch

What if they both became better people for it bc they learned from each other and how they survived it.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@SW-User unfortunately in my experience it dsnt usually go that way. It usually just amplifies the existing issues and brings them out.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@SW-User I used to be idealistic in that regard but ive found it to be very common, people repeat what they know even if they don't want to. You can be patient as a partner but it can be very destructive for that person also.

SW-User

Different hats for different cats 😻@Ryannnnnn

SW-User

I get your point however I feel there’s no such thing as perfection… every interaction leads to a question that some may not like hearing the answers to .. @Ryannnnnn

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@SW-User sure, it's different for everyone. I think the point I wanted to make but made in a very general way was that if you start from an unhealthy place and are suspicious and angry to your partner it's not fair for them and it's not going to work.