Women, do you make any difference in how active a guy is in dating you and how active you'd be in dating him in terms of initiative?
My life situation didn't allow me to put as much effort in dating a woman I like for several years now, and on the other hand, unknown to me, she either seriously let a stranger from the internet take initiative in dating her which made her call him her boyfriend after 6 weeks already, or she was less desperate than that and took inititiative herself on that. Nevertheless like her past few "relationships" it didn't even last half a year (as I bet beforehand meanwhile).
Anyway now with her last guy already, she got me jealous enough to desperately hint on going out together sometime, and she said she wasn't against that. However, I avoided her for 3 months while her relationship broke down. I knew of that because of her picture showing up on an online dating site. But still no action from my side for subtle reasons. One of them was though that since she works in retail and a friend of mine works in that same company in retail as well, he told me that he knows of female co-workers of his who hide away from their exes *at their workplace* until they're gone again. My crush's one co-worker got involved here quite a while ago and I talked to her about that once. She must have hinted on that thing when she said "it's hard for her already to have you around here" (which she never even hinted on to me before, but did so right after "coincidentially").
Things were like before when she was single again. Yet changed again when there was a new guy (out of the blue). Mind you, we're talking about months passing by during that. Anyway I do enjoy talking to her and getting told personal things, which others consider as usual within a friendship, but she never even considered us as friends. A friend of mine once commented the past things I told him about her and me by saying "it seems pretty unlikely for her to turn you down when asking for a date considering how flirtatous she seemed with you".
But as I'm writing this, I get subtly reminded of my ex of a long-distance relationship who neither wanted to meet me nor wanted to let me go. And that night when she suddenly told me of that guy she went to the movie theaters with, reassuring me that they were "just friends". As you might guess, two weeks later she confessed to me that she fell in love with him and that she didn't want any more contact with me. That made me paranoid of every single day I might not hear or read of a future girlfriend of mine who might already go out and get to know someone new behind my back. That friend backed me up on that, since he had such a situation with an ex-crush of his who hinted on liking him, sending many voice-mails forth and back, suddenly with a male voice in the background which he got confused about.
Now should I just ignore why on earth my ex started seeing someone else or why my crush stopped seeing several past guys and risk everything from those 4 years of knowing her to "experience" what she'd make out of that probably "one of many" opportunities for dating/relationship?
Anyway now with her last guy already, she got me jealous enough to desperately hint on going out together sometime, and she said she wasn't against that. However, I avoided her for 3 months while her relationship broke down. I knew of that because of her picture showing up on an online dating site. But still no action from my side for subtle reasons. One of them was though that since she works in retail and a friend of mine works in that same company in retail as well, he told me that he knows of female co-workers of his who hide away from their exes *at their workplace* until they're gone again. My crush's one co-worker got involved here quite a while ago and I talked to her about that once. She must have hinted on that thing when she said "it's hard for her already to have you around here" (which she never even hinted on to me before, but did so right after "coincidentially").
Things were like before when she was single again. Yet changed again when there was a new guy (out of the blue). Mind you, we're talking about months passing by during that. Anyway I do enjoy talking to her and getting told personal things, which others consider as usual within a friendship, but she never even considered us as friends. A friend of mine once commented the past things I told him about her and me by saying "it seems pretty unlikely for her to turn you down when asking for a date considering how flirtatous she seemed with you".
But as I'm writing this, I get subtly reminded of my ex of a long-distance relationship who neither wanted to meet me nor wanted to let me go. And that night when she suddenly told me of that guy she went to the movie theaters with, reassuring me that they were "just friends". As you might guess, two weeks later she confessed to me that she fell in love with him and that she didn't want any more contact with me. That made me paranoid of every single day I might not hear or read of a future girlfriend of mine who might already go out and get to know someone new behind my back. That friend backed me up on that, since he had such a situation with an ex-crush of his who hinted on liking him, sending many voice-mails forth and back, suddenly with a male voice in the background which he got confused about.
Now should I just ignore why on earth my ex started seeing someone else or why my crush stopped seeing several past guys and risk everything from those 4 years of knowing her to "experience" what she'd make out of that probably "one of many" opportunities for dating/relationship?
