You know the thing that sucks about internet dating right?
I wanted to find women that were more you know interested in non monogamy and was cruising okcupid and astonished about how even right here in this city there are hundreds of them and I'd message a couple, and it wasn't like you know I'd send the same message to all the girls because I know better and everyone's an individual and even if I would date multiple women I'm not going to treat them all like they're the same person you know?
Every relationship is pretty unique but It's just like I started to wonder if it was just me that a lot of the messages just went into a black hole and if I were fucking up and there were a better way of going about it, but gradually it dawned on me especially after I got some experience that since women are the ones that are wanted and men are usually the one who want them and that's normally how it goes what ends up happening on okcupid is like this.
Girl port talks about what she's looking for what she wants has a million hobbies and things in common with you (Thing is on okcupid that was usually how it was like I could relate to almost ANY OF THEM HEAVILY there were TONS of room for common ground.)
and yet since women get messaged more often what would happen is almost every other incoming message would pester her about sex when these guys had no relationship with them prior to it and you know several hundred dick picks later 30 seconds into joining and publishing most of them would just log the fuck out and rage quit on the internet experience.
and I mean I'm at least forth coming about the woman who has my heart currently I don't believe in "Cheating" which to me would mean going behind their backs and engaging in infidelity without their knowledge or consent to have more than one person.
I think that that understandably hurts people feelings and I don't like hurting people especailly women it's not a fun thing to do.
that's why consent is so bloody paramount to the whole thing and being honest about the reality of being attracted to multiples- I'm not trying to sneak around behind anyones back.
it's not me though. Too many thirsty dudes online. not that being horny is even bad it's just you know I don't know too many girls who like to be pestered about sex when you're in the getting to know them phase of things. don't know about you but that seems like something most women understandably hate.
