here are a couple of things that I have been made aware of more often than id like....

spiking
r*pe
non consensual s*x acts
dominant/controlling dynamics.

i am a 31 year old woman and I have had my drink spiked 2x in my life.
That's two times too many.
Thankfully i wasn't r*ped.
but the experience on both occassion's was worrying.
so much so that i think it was one of the factors that made me quit drinking.
Its so out of control that its now being reported on the news at least 1 x a month over the last 2 years.
so much so universities are considering doing alcohol and spiking classes...

i have been in a relationship that was controlling and i have been talking and meeting guys that talk about being dominant and into what i consider scary s*xual f*tishes... BDSM!!

I dont think these particular individuals do it because they like or really enjoy it.
I think there is a lot of hate and anger towards women. im aware these dynamics are rising in other relationships (LGBTQ+)

the reason i say this is because a lot of men on these dating apps display anger issues.
the moment you engage in a topic they aren't so keen on they insult or dismiss you, and they think they have the right to do so, they also think you should still want to engage in getting to know them after these outbursts.
I don't, I see it as a BIG FAT RED FLAG!!!

secondly it can't be right that if i've spoken to 20 men all 20 of those men would be interested in engaging in an extreme s*xual kink!!!

I also find it incredibly odd that so many people would be interested in this kind of dynamic, I always understood these kind of kinks were actually a way of life since it requires a level of trust.

as I've discussed with a friend today is all this due to a sense of a lack of control in other areas in their lives?
Is it a r*pe culture being promoted among certain age groups, or is it watch too much porn and minimal human interaction?

I remember as far back as 2007/8 a guy on facebook, he used to add women and ask them for photos and videos and then he'd post it on his social media. he'd humiliate them and more so sleep with them and promise them the world, convince them to tattoo his name on themselves and he'd mock them and call them stupid etc etc. it was disgusting. I reported and blocked his profile but at that time facebook didn't really know what to do.
and even now...

The world is kind if fugged up...
Where are all the normal people??