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Expressing an insecurity dating a middle class + person

So when I dated, it was a new experience and something I had troubles expressing, even to him because a part of me feels ashamed that I didn't feel like I have much to offer in a thriving or everchanging connection between different classes. Or maybe the fact I'm part of the minority pool.

When I went over there, omg, the differences were insane. They've grown up going to places and doing things with their family and friends while me and my friends and family were either up to no good, nothing or just overall broken. Like having families do special get togethers, but the only connection I did with my family.. was being introduced to the fact that the gambling scene at the Casinos was idolize as a bonding experience and nothing more.

Not many of my peers/friends go to college. It's usually involved with (drugs/alcohol/kids) and when I saw this change of him doing better in his life (excluding me). I couldn't help but feel stuck and held him back on his happiness.

But I would be lying if I said, I felt a bit intimidated that I didn't have much to say for myself and even I said, it felt like I had to hold myself back from being judged in a negative way.
I feel similarly when I date someone who is middle class +, and seem like they are a part of a family that isn't dysfunctional. I feel like I don't fit with them. I know it's not true, but it's hard not feel like I'm not good enough for people who are wealthier or more educated than I am.
I also relate to it making it hard to be more open, because what if they can't relate to my experiences and are judgemental.
LyreJ · F
I'm sorry you felt that way. I think middle class and classifications like it are different depending on which country you came from.
But from my experience, some people are just really looking for someone who they can be partners with for life, someone who'll love them and fight to be deserving of them, someone who constantly tries to be better. Maybe it's hypocritical to say you can't change your past sometimes. But we all have parts that we'd rather not let out in the open. If you can find someone who assures you you're more than enough with all of those...then you find yourself a diamond in the rough...possibly.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
I don’t have anything to add. Only that I remember feeling like that for a long time. It was hard. All I could do was focus on bettering my life and disassociating from problematic people so that there was freed up space in my life for good things to happen with good people.

 
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