Feeling blue
Started seeing a guy a few weeks ago & we really hit it off. It did move quite quickly & i was worried about getting too emotional attached too quickly which i did say to him.
I am divorced which was finalised last year. He's outta a long term relationship which ended in Jan.
We both acknowledged that we were moving too fast & to slow down & actually date.
He loves video games whch i have a bad association with as it became as obsession to my ex husband & it contributed to the break down of my marriage. I didn't go into detail with it as we agreed not to talk about ex's. He wants me to involved with his interests but i find it hard to get into video games becasue of my ex.
I have spoken to him about my work struggles & did feel he wasn't giving me the attention i needed & i did send him a text about it. He was annoyed by the text & said he feels other peoples work shouldn't be his concern.
He wanted to stop seeing me romantically as he feels as he's not sure about wanting to be in a relationship just yet & is worried that he can't share his interests with me. I have other interests but wouldn't expect him to take part in. It does bug me that i can't talk about work or get emotional support from him. He also says he'll text me back at his leisure while i am wanting to chat more & do dislike waiting around for him to text. He's getting uncomfortable with what i am expecting.
He just wants to be friends but on the other hand i really like him & not sure if we can just be friends. We did talk about actually going out to do an activity like crazy golf as friends but i am a bit skeptical. I know i am upset about it & i might feel differently after my emotions have calmed down.
I know i can't force him to be with me but unsure what to do. I know my expectations need to change. I feel a couple doesn't always have to do things together but make the effort to find common ground & i want to explain things for my part of it but feel now i can't say anything to him as i don't want to make him uncomfortble. I don't want to text him at the minute in case i say something i regret as i am still upset.
What should I do?
I am divorced which was finalised last year. He's outta a long term relationship which ended in Jan.
We both acknowledged that we were moving too fast & to slow down & actually date.
He loves video games whch i have a bad association with as it became as obsession to my ex husband & it contributed to the break down of my marriage. I didn't go into detail with it as we agreed not to talk about ex's. He wants me to involved with his interests but i find it hard to get into video games becasue of my ex.
I have spoken to him about my work struggles & did feel he wasn't giving me the attention i needed & i did send him a text about it. He was annoyed by the text & said he feels other peoples work shouldn't be his concern.
He wanted to stop seeing me romantically as he feels as he's not sure about wanting to be in a relationship just yet & is worried that he can't share his interests with me. I have other interests but wouldn't expect him to take part in. It does bug me that i can't talk about work or get emotional support from him. He also says he'll text me back at his leisure while i am wanting to chat more & do dislike waiting around for him to text. He's getting uncomfortable with what i am expecting.
He just wants to be friends but on the other hand i really like him & not sure if we can just be friends. We did talk about actually going out to do an activity like crazy golf as friends but i am a bit skeptical. I know i am upset about it & i might feel differently after my emotions have calmed down.
I know i can't force him to be with me but unsure what to do. I know my expectations need to change. I feel a couple doesn't always have to do things together but make the effort to find common ground & i want to explain things for my part of it but feel now i can't say anything to him as i don't want to make him uncomfortble. I don't want to text him at the minute in case i say something i regret as i am still upset.
What should I do?
36-40, F
