What happens is someome is scared of a real relationship?

Do we need to let someome on our hearts? My older sister thinks I'm scared of dating again and I don't let someone in my life or in my heart, I may miss out on a wonderful man and relationships will have fights and ups and downs and downs and I can't avoid conflicts forever. I haven't dated in 5 years. What's wrong with that?

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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

Most people are too quick to trust and to believe. It is not wrong to decide not to date. Romance is a very risky area of life for most of us. I stopped dating when my boyfriend died in 1993. Not dating after he died has made me happy because I don't have to deal with a lot of emotional instability and unhappiness. Dating and romance is just not good for everyone.

Why not sign up your older sister for a computer dating service? It sounds like it might make her happy. Then you do what makes [i]you[/i] happy.

AspieWoman89 · F

@greenmountaingal so you're happy he died? That's harsh

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@AspieWoman89 That might not be a correct understanding. Believe me, his death broke my heart. But not dating again has worked for me. I realize that might not be the case for everyone. I am just about to post a story about my boyfriend and what happened when he died.

AspieWoman89 · F

@greenmountaingal ooh i see. Sorry to hear about that.

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@AspieWoman89 I just posted my story. For some of us, it's very hard to trust again.