I'm Probably Making a Mistake

I made a profile on the FB Dating thing app.

There's a lady that's already asked to meet me for breakfast next weekend and I think I said yes...

Now I'm wondering if it's too soon for me to be meeting anyone for anything?

My profile does say that I'm looking for friendship, but I'm not really sure if anyone even pays attention to the things people type in their bios? I've never done anything like this before, and I honestly expected a little more texting beforehand, as a way to try and get to know some things about each other.

I think I'm supposed to text her back later in the week to work something out for the breakfast thing?

I'm not sure what I should do, or if I should go?

What do you think?

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moonlightlullaby · 46-50, F

You should go. If anything you may just find that friendship your wanting 😉

HikingMan · 51-55, M

@moonlightlullaby Thank you, MLL.
I will probably go, though I’m sure I’ll be a bit nervous. I doubt I’ll have any real expectations going in, as I normally expect things to go poorly anyways.

moonlightlullaby · 46-50, F

@HikingMan Understandable. You could also start out by telling her you're nervous. A good human will understand. Maybe she's nervous too. Nevertheless, I hope everything goes well and y'all can get in some relatable conversation at least . 🤞

Tattooedtaboo · 46-50, M

It sounds to me you may be a little nervous? Kind of putting yourself out there. I personally think you should totally go meet for breakfast. I mean, whats the worst that can happen or possibly, the best? Dobt harbor big expectations, and just go where opportunity takes ya. Make sure to cover the cost of breakfast even tho she suggested it (this time). Just my 2 cents

HikingMan · 51-55, M

@Tattooedtaboo A little nervous, Yes.

I'll probably go. I do like breakfast.

Tattooedtaboo · 46-50, M

Nice. Not going to lie, but a chicken fried steak with hash browns and bacon does sound mighty fire right meow.... with a side biscuit in sausage gravy. Like i said, worst case scenario, you had yourself a mighty fine breakfast, best case, you had yourself a mighty fine breakfast AND walked away with someone you may knkw for the rest of your life, as a friend or more, who knows, THE SKY IS THE LIMIT BROTATO! SEND IT! lol

Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M

You should go 💯

HikingMan · 51-55, M

@Fukfacewillie You sound so sure.
I guess it just feels weird ?
I just created the account on Friday night.

Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M

@HikingMan It’s one meal. I say get your first one under your belt.

SoftIceCream ·

Sounds like you have a week of texting to get to. Ask your questions. If she doesn't sound legit then don't go. Maybe she is perfect for you, that is the mindset you need going in, just be cautious.

HikingMan · 51-55, M

@SoftIceCream I tend to overthink and over rationalize everything. Which is kind of what I'm doing now with this post. Only here I'm allowing for other thoughts to mix with my own.

Lilnonames · F

i would go,it might be what you needed,find out in person if you both feel comfortable with each other,stop hiding behind a screen,plus so later on you dont feel guilty and kick yourself and say ,wish i would have went,if it dont work,remember you had your morning coffee

HikingMan · 51-55, M

@Lilnonames
I guess that's true. What' the worst that could happen ?

PlatonicSquirelFriends

@HikingMan my mind immediately leaps to several terrible things that could happen, including attacked by dinosaurs 😂

Kuronekko · 41-45, F

Just get out there, no pressure this early on. Be honest about not being sure what you're looking for right now. Everyone is nervous doing this stuff.

PlatonicSquirelFriends

Online dating can be pretty awful, but has also led to bona fide relationships. I think if you aren't clear on what you want, you should stay away.

For example, you say friendship. Are you after friendship or is that code for casual sex? And if it is code for casual sex are you emotionally unavailable?

Breakfast is a very low key date. It's perfect for a low pressure meet and greet.

In the online dating workd it is uncommon for there to be much conversation before meeting. The meeting is the place where the bulk of the vetting occurs and the decision is made about whether one wants to make another date. The advantage to this is one can immediately assess whether or not there is any chemistry between you.

My friend met her partner on an online dating site, but it took her more than 50 dates, some of which led to aborted relationships, with other people before she met him.

So it's a numbers game.

LaraChel · 36-40, F

Stay as you are, be authentic, keep relaxed and smiling...you have nothing to loose.
Probably the date will be good, then you will feel great...if not, anyway, you wont loose anything☺

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