My Dad is Very Racist

I know, I use the word "very" like it makes a damn bit of difference -- racism is racism -- but holy hell. It seems to be getting worse with age. We (my dad, my mother, and me) were attempting to watch a documentary this evening (Missing 411: The Hunted), when he received a phone call. Of course, I paused the movie. He was on the phone with my sister, who has a black boyfriend and son, and she was agreeing with every word of this shit. He was ranting about Juneteenth, "black holidays," and some horrible stuff that I won't repeat here. I just handed my mother the remote and left. I'll go live and die in the woods before I ever have to live with him again.

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markansas · 61-69, M

i have a complex family also.. you dont have to like them however you should love him. so with that being said you are not that way and your sister is not that way. he lost the battle in making you the way he is. so dont leave home till ya have a place to go tho. .
dont be mad just understand it was the time when he grew up in that was part of his problem. find a good home for yourself and move out. but still go back and see your family. thats all. good luck. mark

BlackPhillip · 31-35, M

@markansas Thank you, Mark. I actually don't live with them, but I worry about things in the future that might lead me back there. If it's their health declining, I'd still go back. He is my father, and I'll take care of him. I love him, and that's why it bothers me so much.

BlackPhillip · 31-35, M

@markansas Also, I just don't buy the whole thing about how things were in their day. We're all capable of changing our perspectives with new information, and he simply has refused to do so. He is, after all, a grown man. There's no excuse.

markansas · 61-69, M

@BlackPhillip i know..

markansas · 61-69, M

@BlackPhillip i am 65 bout the age of your pa or a little less. no the early years of the 50 and 60 was a lot of getting freedom for the blacks. at that time being gay was a crime . sodomy. you would go to jail.. now if that was what i saw think what your grandfathers time where hanging a black was common and ok.. . ya i could go on . just my thought. we are what we are taught and your father was taught by your grandfather. mark

BlackPhillip · 31-35, M

@markansas That's true, but my father taught me... and I chose my own path. I know it's more complex than this, but I just need to vent for a few minutes. Thank you for commenting.

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