Help for a friend
I Need Help 💔 💔 💔
My dear friend from SW has made me GoFundMe page.
This is a very difficult post for me to make. Since the beginning of the war, I have been praying for a miracle, and felt convinced that I'd find one way or another to save us from financial ruin. My friend who made me the GoFundMe page has been supporting me and my husband for a while now, by paying our credit interest for us monthly, but it can't continue.
My husband has been unable to work since the beginning of the war, as he would be conscripted into the army if he did, and I only live here on a temporary permit. I don't know the language very well, and I can't even have a bank account in this country. I have been trying to improve my artistic skills, in hopes that I'll be able to sell some sort of art online (like NSFW art) but I'm still in the early stages of learning, and it would never be enough to get out of debt now, nor stop the snowball from rolling.
We now stand to lose our apartment, which in turn will notify the officials about my husband, and they will conscript him into the army. We should sell the apartment now, ourselves, before it's taken from us, but my husband cannot go to war. My husband is autistic, which I've never felt a need to share with the public before, but I think it's important to be transparent now, in the light of what I'm asking.
Mental health awareness is practically non-existent in Ukraine, but whether or not his condition is recognized in this country, doesn't change the fact that he can under no circumstances fare well in a warzone. He fails at remembering and understanding things daily, which to most people are very simple and straightforward. He is hardly capable of having and understanding a conversation with a person who doesn't know him, so following military orders and handling weapons is out of the question. This war is very deadly, especially for Ukrainians who fight here with the little means they have, so if my husband is sent to war then it's over for him.
I met my husband online (on EP), and moved to Ukraine in 2018, after having known him for many years. We never imagined that something like this would happen. Despite my husband's mental challenges, I love him very much, and we were very happy together. We had more than enough money, but we only planned to live in Ukraine for 5 years, before moving to Denmark (my home country) together. The idea was just for me to experience his world for a while. This war came out of nowhere, and my husband cannot leave the country as long as martial law is in place, hence we got stuck in this terrible situation.
Everything have doubled once or twice in price, many items are now 600% more expensive than they were before the war. This applies to bills too. We first burned through our saving, then we started taking credit. We are at the point where we can no longer take anymore credit, and can no longer pay the interest for the credit we have. Any amount of money would help us, as it would immediately pat off some of the debt, and thereby lower next month's interest.
I struggle with several medical issues, which I have not been able to afford addressing of since the beginning of the war. I got chronic pancreatitis in my early 20s, which is dangerous because it greatly increases my risk of getting pancreatic cancer, which is one of the most aggressive cancers that there are, and it's extremely difficult to detect in the early stages too. This means I have to take good care of my pancreas to cause to further damage, and have blood tests taken + a CT scan routinely. I haven't been able to afford doing this since the beginning of the war. I have become underweight, as I couldn't afford to keep a healthy diet, and have been having pancreatic flare-ups lately.
I too struggle with terrible acid reflux, but the medication I used to take for it was harmful to my pancreas, hence I had to discontinue it. I know that many people live with chronic pain, but this pain gets overwhelming often, and causes permanent damage to my throat. It comes on after just eating an apple here and half a carrot there, so I wish to find a more permanent solution to the problem as soon as I can.
I no longer drink any amount of alcohol, and I have completely quit smoking. I am currently underweight, but I don't know how to gain weight when I cannot afford the food that I can safely eat. I have a smaller hernia in my left side too, which came about back when I did a daily 30-minute upper-body workout rutine, and it will eventually need surgery too.
Our largest expenses are bills, my medication (beta blockers and a dietary supplement against acid reflux), as well as my dog's epilepsy medication. We have a rescue dog which suffers from very severe epilepsy, and needs medication 3 times daily to stay alive. He's only 5 years old, and happy and healthy as long as he gets his medication. We have not splurged on anything, or even bought cheap clothes, since the start of the war. I had very little clothes to begin with, and now most of my clothes are literally torn. I'm ashamed when I go out in public, and always try to wear a jacket, so that it's less obvious. In the summer we eat seasonal fruit and vegetables with buckwheat, and in winter we eat potatoes and yellow split peas. I can't remember the last time I had a real meal.
I started needing beta blockers 2 years into the war, as this whole ordeal has been very stressful to me, and this high amount of stress has negatively affected my body in many ways. It feels to me like the war has been going on for 10 years already.
Our entire debt, spread across multiple cards, is now up to $7100. We are losing our apartment, and will soon be unable to afford bills and medication. We currently only have electricity 12 out of 14 hours, as it's turned on and off every 4 hours throughout the day and night, which means that food also spoils faster, and we are likely to lose electricity for days at the time later into this winter, which means that it's going to get incredibly cold.
I never thought that I would be making this post, but I am not in a position to have pride anymore. I know that some people might judge me, but sometimes it's impossible to foresee the kind of situation life will bring. If I don't ask, I will lose my last chance to help myself and my family. This is my last resort.
Any amount of money will be helpful, as it lowers our interest rates right away. If you want to help in other ways, I would deeply appreciate it if you help me spread the word on your own profile or elsewhere, and link back to this post, or to my GoFundMe page.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post. ♡
Link to my GoFundMe page:
https://gofund.me/6a17cd017
link to actual post below 👇
https://similarworlds.com/groups/similar-worlds/5450500-I-Need-Help-My-dear-friend-from-SW-has-made-me-GoFundMe-page
My dear friend from SW has made me GoFundMe page.
This is a very difficult post for me to make. Since the beginning of the war, I have been praying for a miracle, and felt convinced that I'd find one way or another to save us from financial ruin. My friend who made me the GoFundMe page has been supporting me and my husband for a while now, by paying our credit interest for us monthly, but it can't continue.
My husband has been unable to work since the beginning of the war, as he would be conscripted into the army if he did, and I only live here on a temporary permit. I don't know the language very well, and I can't even have a bank account in this country. I have been trying to improve my artistic skills, in hopes that I'll be able to sell some sort of art online (like NSFW art) but I'm still in the early stages of learning, and it would never be enough to get out of debt now, nor stop the snowball from rolling.
We now stand to lose our apartment, which in turn will notify the officials about my husband, and they will conscript him into the army. We should sell the apartment now, ourselves, before it's taken from us, but my husband cannot go to war. My husband is autistic, which I've never felt a need to share with the public before, but I think it's important to be transparent now, in the light of what I'm asking.
Mental health awareness is practically non-existent in Ukraine, but whether or not his condition is recognized in this country, doesn't change the fact that he can under no circumstances fare well in a warzone. He fails at remembering and understanding things daily, which to most people are very simple and straightforward. He is hardly capable of having and understanding a conversation with a person who doesn't know him, so following military orders and handling weapons is out of the question. This war is very deadly, especially for Ukrainians who fight here with the little means they have, so if my husband is sent to war then it's over for him.
I met my husband online (on EP), and moved to Ukraine in 2018, after having known him for many years. We never imagined that something like this would happen. Despite my husband's mental challenges, I love him very much, and we were very happy together. We had more than enough money, but we only planned to live in Ukraine for 5 years, before moving to Denmark (my home country) together. The idea was just for me to experience his world for a while. This war came out of nowhere, and my husband cannot leave the country as long as martial law is in place, hence we got stuck in this terrible situation.
Everything have doubled once or twice in price, many items are now 600% more expensive than they were before the war. This applies to bills too. We first burned through our saving, then we started taking credit. We are at the point where we can no longer take anymore credit, and can no longer pay the interest for the credit we have. Any amount of money would help us, as it would immediately pat off some of the debt, and thereby lower next month's interest.
I struggle with several medical issues, which I have not been able to afford addressing of since the beginning of the war. I got chronic pancreatitis in my early 20s, which is dangerous because it greatly increases my risk of getting pancreatic cancer, which is one of the most aggressive cancers that there are, and it's extremely difficult to detect in the early stages too. This means I have to take good care of my pancreas to cause to further damage, and have blood tests taken + a CT scan routinely. I haven't been able to afford doing this since the beginning of the war. I have become underweight, as I couldn't afford to keep a healthy diet, and have been having pancreatic flare-ups lately.
I too struggle with terrible acid reflux, but the medication I used to take for it was harmful to my pancreas, hence I had to discontinue it. I know that many people live with chronic pain, but this pain gets overwhelming often, and causes permanent damage to my throat. It comes on after just eating an apple here and half a carrot there, so I wish to find a more permanent solution to the problem as soon as I can.
I no longer drink any amount of alcohol, and I have completely quit smoking. I am currently underweight, but I don't know how to gain weight when I cannot afford the food that I can safely eat. I have a smaller hernia in my left side too, which came about back when I did a daily 30-minute upper-body workout rutine, and it will eventually need surgery too.
Our largest expenses are bills, my medication (beta blockers and a dietary supplement against acid reflux), as well as my dog's epilepsy medication. We have a rescue dog which suffers from very severe epilepsy, and needs medication 3 times daily to stay alive. He's only 5 years old, and happy and healthy as long as he gets his medication. We have not splurged on anything, or even bought cheap clothes, since the start of the war. I had very little clothes to begin with, and now most of my clothes are literally torn. I'm ashamed when I go out in public, and always try to wear a jacket, so that it's less obvious. In the summer we eat seasonal fruit and vegetables with buckwheat, and in winter we eat potatoes and yellow split peas. I can't remember the last time I had a real meal.
I started needing beta blockers 2 years into the war, as this whole ordeal has been very stressful to me, and this high amount of stress has negatively affected my body in many ways. It feels to me like the war has been going on for 10 years already.
Our entire debt, spread across multiple cards, is now up to $7100. We are losing our apartment, and will soon be unable to afford bills and medication. We currently only have electricity 12 out of 14 hours, as it's turned on and off every 4 hours throughout the day and night, which means that food also spoils faster, and we are likely to lose electricity for days at the time later into this winter, which means that it's going to get incredibly cold.
I never thought that I would be making this post, but I am not in a position to have pride anymore. I know that some people might judge me, but sometimes it's impossible to foresee the kind of situation life will bring. If I don't ask, I will lose my last chance to help myself and my family. This is my last resort.
Any amount of money will be helpful, as it lowers our interest rates right away. If you want to help in other ways, I would deeply appreciate it if you help me spread the word on your own profile or elsewhere, and link back to this post, or to my GoFundMe page.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post. ♡
Link to my GoFundMe page:
https://gofund.me/6a17cd017
link to actual post below 👇
https://similarworlds.com/groups/similar-worlds/5450500-I-Need-Help-My-dear-friend-from-SW-has-made-me-GoFundMe-page
