How to do you convince your parents to marry the guy you love ?

My parents are Christians, very much into preaching God’s word in the church circles, and are against my relationship with a Muslim boy. Religion is the only reason (as far as they tell me). My parents quote Bible verses that speak about God commanding against inter-religious relationships and marriages. But, I love the guy and neither of us are in the state of moving on.

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Nelladell · 80-89, F

This is tough. I can totally sympathize because my mother made it impossible for me to marry the guy I chose. But it looks like you at least have a choice. I am glad of that. I think youe parents should recognize your right to choose your life's companion for yourself.

I also think that, while making your choice, you should honor your parents by truly considering what they are saying. Truly hear them. Note that I am not saying to follow their wishes blindly, just that as their daughter, you should consider what they say and try to understand why they are saying it.

One way to show them you are doing this in a loving way would be to watch the movie or read the book NOT WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER. It is the true story of a woman who married a Muslim man. It happened almost 40 years ago and may not apply today. Then again, in some places, it might.

My main message to you is -- dare to look into it a little more. Find out what you can. Then make your decision.

SW-User

@Nelladell Totally agree with you. Thank you for your kind advice.
Sometimes we meet interesting people outside our traditional boundaries. This happens more now than before as world is changing. In our case we both are not religious. I won't like if he ask me to convert to his religion and I don't want him to convert to my religion too.

We can always go ahead with out choices. But we would love to have our parents by our side and we both care for our parents. We both find religion to be divisive. This applies to most of the religions that I know.

Thnk you for sharing the movie. I will watch it 😊

Nelladell · 80-89, F

@SW-User I am glad you plan to be careful. I want to say, though, that, at core, this has nothing to do with religion -- PER SE, but with the power men have over women in that culture. The woman who was so abused by her husband in NOT WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER went to visit her husband's family in the Middle East and had to go through a dangerous ordeal escaping over the mountains. It's the powe the man traditionally has had in the Moslem world. Please understand that concern.

SW-User

@Nelladell Thank you for the heads up. I understand your point. I agree, religion has nothing to do in this case. But few incidents in the past should make us cautious. I agree, I will be considering that aspect and would not prefer to go into their world. Both of us can be married and settle in western world.

Nelladell · 80-89, F

@SW-User Oh how I remember feeling as you do. I am happy for your happiness and wish you great joy in life.❤️

SW-User

@Nelladell Thank you so much 🤗❤️