What to do if you have a child who isn't listening or making good choices- some parenting advice if you are frustrated.
1. Stop all critisism
2. Praise anything good that your child does every day Use encouraging words like "I believe in you, I think you will do very well in life, I am praying for you and God will help you etc... Reward good behaviors. Kids need to earn privileges. It works better than punishment.
3. Say sorry if you have said or done anything in the past you regret. Really work on having a good relationship with your child, doing fun things, spending some time together every day. And planning fun vacations together.
4. Share your values, but listen to your child and don't argue, just listen like you are interested in what he says.
5. Give respect. Knock before you speak with your child if he is in his room. He has to open the door don't just go in. Don't interrupt phone conversations, schedule talks. Give the respect you want from your child
6. Role model good values and good behaviors. Your child will copy them like reading the Bible, going to church, praying, volunteering, giving food to neighbors, helping people, etc.
7. Treat your mate with kindness. Do not say anything bad about your mate to your child.
8 Only use uplifting and kind words in the house. If you have a mate who is on drugs, or cheats, or is mean, then have a meeting with your mate and say that you are not happy and if things don't change then you might have to separate. Give a time limit. Then do it. If you are separated and want to move back, then start from scratch dating for a few months once a week then more often and then move in.
9. Allow your child to have many friends and get together with those friends on weekends. Most towns have curfews of 10 pm for teens Let your child be with friends, as well as grandparents, and cousins, aunts, and uncles.
10. Enroll your child in one or two fun hobbies. There are many fun hobbies that can prepare your child for a career later in life, soccer or another sport, music lessons, horseback riding, sailing, art classes, karate, ice skating, gymnastics, swimming, dance, etc It is expensive but worth it. Only allow video time as a reward for good behaviors, and limit it to a few hours a week no more.
2. Praise anything good that your child does every day Use encouraging words like "I believe in you, I think you will do very well in life, I am praying for you and God will help you etc... Reward good behaviors. Kids need to earn privileges. It works better than punishment.
3. Say sorry if you have said or done anything in the past you regret. Really work on having a good relationship with your child, doing fun things, spending some time together every day. And planning fun vacations together.
4. Share your values, but listen to your child and don't argue, just listen like you are interested in what he says.
5. Give respect. Knock before you speak with your child if he is in his room. He has to open the door don't just go in. Don't interrupt phone conversations, schedule talks. Give the respect you want from your child
6. Role model good values and good behaviors. Your child will copy them like reading the Bible, going to church, praying, volunteering, giving food to neighbors, helping people, etc.
7. Treat your mate with kindness. Do not say anything bad about your mate to your child.
8 Only use uplifting and kind words in the house. If you have a mate who is on drugs, or cheats, or is mean, then have a meeting with your mate and say that you are not happy and if things don't change then you might have to separate. Give a time limit. Then do it. If you are separated and want to move back, then start from scratch dating for a few months once a week then more often and then move in.
9. Allow your child to have many friends and get together with those friends on weekends. Most towns have curfews of 10 pm for teens Let your child be with friends, as well as grandparents, and cousins, aunts, and uncles.
10. Enroll your child in one or two fun hobbies. There are many fun hobbies that can prepare your child for a career later in life, soccer or another sport, music lessons, horseback riding, sailing, art classes, karate, ice skating, gymnastics, swimming, dance, etc It is expensive but worth it. Only allow video time as a reward for good behaviors, and limit it to a few hours a week no more.
