I am 32 years old and i'm in my last 1.5 years of medical training and my life is in shambles
I've spent all of my adult life in medical training, i've done pre-med, medical school, residency and now half way across the world in fellowship.
I guess what I could tell you from this experience is that life doesn't stop happening just because you're busy chasing a "dream". I've been through a lot in and through my medical training. I lost my dad in 2018 due to complications of his diabetes and heart disease, my brother got leukemia also around that time and thankfully in remission since then. Recently, while in fellowship my sister got diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and it's been heart breaking seeing my mom at her age having to be her care taker. I came home recently from a 13 hour flight, and visited my family. It's been a whirlwind of emotions. And truly i'm just writing my feelings out here and totally randomly.
My brother is going through a divorce and he is not on speaking terms with his kids or soon to be ex wife. He is terrible with money and has forced my sister to take a 350 k loan that he has all lost. My mom has seen all of this and it has made her heart break more. I would try to advise her to not be so kind and not to take the burden of her adult children. To her to confess to me how hard life has been for her from her youth till now, which I agree, life has been extremely hard on her. She has lost many people including her sister, her parents, her husband and her best friend. People have betrayed her numerous times. Life has been hard.
Going through medical training you kind of have to have tunnel vision when it comes to the outside world and your family's problems, you have to look straight ahead and focus on yourself. I did that and thankfully got to survive this far (still have 1.5 years left), but when you reach near the end, the problems are still there, even if have ignored them long enough. 🤷♀
Life has been tough but it has also been great, i've been blessed with a really great mom (I wish her life was easier though and happier), and i've also met someone who i truly see myself spending the rest of my life with. He's been there for me through a lot, and everyday i'm more impressed by his character.
Don't know honestly, I also have a board exam coming soon, so that's just the cherry on top. i'm exhausted, scared and just tired (redundant much?). I'm afraid of what life has to offer me now, because there is not much of strong in me left
I guess what I could tell you from this experience is that life doesn't stop happening just because you're busy chasing a "dream". I've been through a lot in and through my medical training. I lost my dad in 2018 due to complications of his diabetes and heart disease, my brother got leukemia also around that time and thankfully in remission since then. Recently, while in fellowship my sister got diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and it's been heart breaking seeing my mom at her age having to be her care taker. I came home recently from a 13 hour flight, and visited my family. It's been a whirlwind of emotions. And truly i'm just writing my feelings out here and totally randomly.
My brother is going through a divorce and he is not on speaking terms with his kids or soon to be ex wife. He is terrible with money and has forced my sister to take a 350 k loan that he has all lost. My mom has seen all of this and it has made her heart break more. I would try to advise her to not be so kind and not to take the burden of her adult children. To her to confess to me how hard life has been for her from her youth till now, which I agree, life has been extremely hard on her. She has lost many people including her sister, her parents, her husband and her best friend. People have betrayed her numerous times. Life has been hard.
Going through medical training you kind of have to have tunnel vision when it comes to the outside world and your family's problems, you have to look straight ahead and focus on yourself. I did that and thankfully got to survive this far (still have 1.5 years left), but when you reach near the end, the problems are still there, even if have ignored them long enough. 🤷♀
Life has been tough but it has also been great, i've been blessed with a really great mom (I wish her life was easier though and happier), and i've also met someone who i truly see myself spending the rest of my life with. He's been there for me through a lot, and everyday i'm more impressed by his character.
Don't know honestly, I also have a board exam coming soon, so that's just the cherry on top. i'm exhausted, scared and just tired (redundant much?). I'm afraid of what life has to offer me now, because there is not much of strong in me left
