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Career choices are difficult

I've had a difficult conversation with my boss and the operations director yesterday.
Not difficult in the sense that they made remarks or anything.
On the contrary, I got everything I wanted and will be offered even much more. They praised me to the sky pretty much.

Difficult because they want me to make a choice about my further career with them.

It's not easy because what they prefer (financial management focus) was not what I had in mind, and it's also the most challenging part for me lol.
I don't have an accountancy certificate and what I know is just based on my work experience. What they long for is someone who can do international financial planning, analysis, investment suggestions, full reporting etc.

Inititially, I was hired to do finance and office support as an assistant. In reality, since the previous people left upon my onboarding, I've been managing finances, HR, payroll, fleet and office for our 35 international employees and for our 2 companies. I will also have to set up a 3rd company in the UK and hire someone through a visum procedure there.

Taking everything into account, I want to continue working for them since they will also let me hire someone extra to support me, and I've been feeling a lot better after our open conversation yesterday.
I do love the job, my colleagues and I like my boss(es). I've never been recognized for my efforts as much as I have been there. But I've also never been challenged as much. It's both great but also very heavy.
Mentally I feel like I've been working at the border of my limits constantly for almost a year now.
Through it all, I've contributed to the company a whole lot and saved them tons of money. My boss said he would rather give responsibilities to me "too early" and allow me to learn, than hiring someone new with no track record, and risk to ruin everything I've built so far.

The future challenge will also be heavier, they intend to set up specific goals I need to reach too, and it seems like my responsibilities will only grow.
It's not what I intended when I joined (I wanted to work 80% so I could be with my kid more and take it easier), but I also don't like the idea of turning away from it, because if I don't take their offer, someone else will and will get paid a whole lot more for it at the expense of my efforts.

And so... I'm left with difficult choices to make. Spend less time with family as I had intended or pass out on the opportunity and see someone else reaping the fruits of what I've built. Focus on finance & acquisition, or HR & office management.

Stuff to think about...
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Pretzel · 70-79, M
I've been to a lot of funerals over the years and have seen a bunch of headstones

not once have I seen one that said "I wish I had spent more time at work"

you're at the prime age to be management and have proven to them your competence.

you have to think about the time you get to spend with you kid - until they hit 18 or so they will know if they are your priority or not (at 18 they are in college or out on their own, right?)

just some food for thought - I don't know your situation and don't have to live with your choice so my opinion is worth what you paid for it.

the company will be lucky to have you in whatever capacity you chose

good luck
kimmy159 · F
@Pretzel Thank you so much for the great reply ^^
I'll give you an open reply of my views too.

I'm not sure if my kid would see a lot of difference from what I've already been doing for a year.
When I compare it with my own parents, I saw them much less than I see my own kid. I was pretty much raised by my grandparents because my parents were always working. My mind has been on work a lot too this past year, but I did spend time with my kid almost every day. Not as much as I could as an assistant, but I'm not sure if that is really needed.

I see the same situation with my friends as well, we all have about 1 hour of time during weekdays in the morning, and 1 hour of time at night to spend with our kids before bedtime.
Our real time with them is often during the weekend and I'm almost always at home with my kid then, or we go do fun stuff like swimming, outings, family visits, playgrounds,...
That would not change by accepting the new challenge ^^ Aside from maybe being abroad or at work events occassionally during the week.

I just would not get to work 80% and will have to chose what I want to continue doing (and grow in that department, reach goals etc), and what the new person will be doing.

Would you accept it with this background?
(I genuinely want to know your honest opinion ;))
Pretzel · 70-79, M
@kimmy159 I'd have to give it serious consideration - especially if I had support where it was needed with your child.

and it occurs to me that you MIGHT be able to work in the overseas trip so that you kid could go with you (maybe with an older family member and they could do some sightseeing)

if the current time isn't going to change all that much (time at work) AND you're getting compensated well....

I'd have to give it a shot. your bosses seem very approachable - and you need an assistant? where do I send my CV ? :)
kimmy159 · F
@Pretzel I'm lucky to be well supported. My parents in law live about 5 minutes driving from our place. If I'm going to the main office in Brussels (2 hours drive and then 2 hours back), they are always ready to pick up Neil from school if I might run late. Luckily it doesn't happen that often, and Neil genuinely loves them too so he sees it as a fun occurence lol.

My parents love Neil to death too, but they do support less. I didn't expect them to either, considering they were not much around for me either as a kid ;p I could say that they even do more effort for him than they did for me 🙈 but I see that as a good thing.

When I traveled to the UK, I've combined it with my husband and Neil too ^^ So I definitely want to do that more often in the future if the opportunity occurs ;)

My bosses are approachable, but only if you deliver results I guess. I've been a great help to them, so they are very flexible towards me you could say. As HR, I also see the other side of them for people who do not deliver results. But it's an aspect I'm well aware of.
Pretzel · 70-79, M
@kimmy159 well it is a business so sometimes the tough decisions have to be made.

sounds like you have this well supported - if you decide to go for it - I wish you success!