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Does this make any sense? [I Am Fat]

Two weeks ago I was outside on my patio talking to my new roommate, an amusing guy I like although he is a generation younger than I am. I was so happy that we mainly get along that I said some complimentary things to him praising his humor and lively personality. He said that we two could never be friends because I am "boring." I felt terrible and almost cried.

About a week ago, he began to make negative comments on my weight and size and shape. One remark, out of nowhere, "Wouldn't you be happier without that big butt?" I have told him I don't appreciate these critical remarks about my body. His excuse (too often heard by fat people) is that it's all for my own good and he says it because he is concerned about me and cares about my health and well being.

So...is it OK to explicitly reject someone's friendship, state that this person isn't qualified to be your friend, and then insult them personally and say it's because you care about them?

I don't think so.
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Penny · 46-50, F
Many guys communicate that way to each other when they think of you as a friend. I think this might be the case here. I think of it in terms of "busting each others balls" if he didnt care he prolly just wouldnt say anything. When he does that its your cue to pick on him for something. Goodnaturedly of course. eta- also, i'd personally take him telling you you are boring as teasing. its almost a kind of flirting honestly. either that or he is a total prick but i doubt it
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@Penny That's exactly what I have been doing. After he insulted my body shape, he got up to go into our swimming pool and I shouted at him, "Fat floats. Skinny people sink like stones!!!"
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