We were always a very vanilla couple. Then a gentleman friend of my partner became widowed and very depressed. My partner invited him over for dinner and joked about having me for dessert. Feeling sorry for his widowed friend and wanting to please my partner, I went along with it. And I still do. We see him every three or four weeks. We don't swing and I only have sex with my partner and also with his widowed friend. We all have a great time together. Does that make me a polygamist? 😊 Birdie