I Am a Lesbian

22 Year Old Female Who Is A Lesbian, But Didn't Name It.... I've always been a lesbian, but never called or admitted it. I was attracted to my elementary school female best friend's aesthetics and personality. I'm twenty-two years old by the way. A girl kissed me on the cheek when I was in 2nd grade. I admired females' beauties since the beginning of school. I'm attracted to some males' aesthetics and personality, but I'm aesthetically and sexually attracted to some females. I've never seen a lesbian until my high school years. Even then I didn't know I was one. I didn't think of having sex. I was too busy with school and thought of other things. I attend a community college. I'm a self-assured and rational person. I'm also independent and make my own decisions. I'm here to find lesbians because I grew up thinking being straight was the norm and I didn't have lesbian friends. I think lesbians and "straights" live similarly except that lesbians like females and "straights" like the opposite gender. I don't think I missed out by not having lesbian friends.

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an0na

sexuallity is like a continous line form hetero to homo and people are destributed in between.
so it is possible that someone is attacted to both sexes equally or one more than other.
@joahola98wj, it is possible that you have a bad memory about penetration or sth similar
that you don't like it.it's just a possibility.i guess you should be careful if you ever wanted to be with a man, and inform him about this situation before anything happens because it may hurt you both.you can also see a psychologist about it to see what has caused this.
@ novenafriends, i don't think anyone has a place or perception to say what God wants or doesn't.
this way of thinking only brings the feeling of being guilty for something that even doesnot harm anyone. the living it brings is full of pain and fear for nothing.
forcing a person to marry someone he/she doesn't like is a SIN.because you're ruining someone's life.
thinking that because someone is different or believe in sth you don't, he/she deserves the worst is wrong.

joahola98wj · 36-40, F

The reason I don't want to be penetrated by a male is because I don't want to have a baby and by a female because I've heard and watched in a book and in TV shows that it feels painful to break your hymen. Why do people look like they're in pain when they are penetrated?

an0na

I see. having sexual relationship with a male doesnot always mean getting pregnant. besides there are many ways to prevent that it can be done by both male and female. there are men who don't like to have a child as well and are willing to prevent it for themselves not forcing their partner.

about breaking hymen i heard that too,but have no idea how much is the pain. you can consult with a sextherapist or a physician about it as well.i guess there are ways to do that with less or no pain. to my knowledge extent it's just once.

anyway i hope you'll be happy with any decisions you make