I Am a Lesbian

22 Year Old Female Who Is A Lesbian, But Didn't Name It.... I've always been a lesbian, but never called or admitted it. I was attracted to my elementary school female best friend's aesthetics and personality. I'm twenty-two years old by the way. A girl kissed me on the cheek when I was in 2nd grade. I admired females' beauties since the beginning of school. I'm attracted to some males' aesthetics and personality, but I'm aesthetically and sexually attracted to some females. I've never seen a lesbian until my high school years. Even then I didn't know I was one. I didn't think of having sex. I was too busy with school and thought of other things. I attend a community college. I'm a self-assured and rational person. I'm also independent and make my own decisions. I'm here to find lesbians because I grew up thinking being straight was the norm and I didn't have lesbian friends. I think lesbians and "straights" live similarly except that lesbians like females and "straights" like the opposite gender. I don't think I missed out by not having lesbian friends.

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RosesNBloom

I'm 27 and I just came out. I finally realized that I was a lesbian a while ago, but it took me a long time to come out completely. I tried to "be hetero" for a long time, but it just wasn't working for me. In fact, it was causing me a lot of stress and depression. I never had a serious relationship because I just wasn't attracted to males, but I had some very intense relationships with my female "friends". I was always upset that I didn't have the life everyone else had. I wasn't dating boys, I wasn't getting married, I wasn't having kids, and I wasn't normal. Everywhere I went I was part of the gay community as a "straight supporter" and I felt so happy and accepted there. It wasn't until two years ago that I was really honest with myself that my attractions to females and my experiences with females were there because I was a lesbian. I fought with myself for two years about whether or not to come out. I was so afraid of rejection that I thought that I could change myself. Finally I managed, with the help of some great friends, to accept myself. Then I came out (yesterday) and I am already shocked at the outpouring of acceptance and love from family and friends. It's a wonderful feeling to be honest with myself and to be looking forward to my new lease on life! If you ever want to talk, message me and I'd be more than happy to listen.

Jordangirly

Good for you! As it should be acceptance for who you are not what you like or don't like.

joahola98wj · 36-40, F

Thank you for sharing your story, RosesNBloom. I'm not out to my family, but I think some people can sense I'm a lesbian. My sexual orientation isn't something I announce to everyone unless they ask. I've never been asked this. It's not a huge part of my identity. It doesn't relate to anything in my life except if I want to date someone. Females don't announce their sexual orientation unless they mention a boyfriend. I don't know where the lesbians are in my college. Therefore I'm using online sites such as this one to search for them.