What do you find most attractive when it comes to feet?

@onewithshoes Why do you like couples with one barefoot and one not?

@SomeMichGuy I don't know. I just really like seeing that contrast. Maybe because it makes the barefoot one look more barefoot?
But if I'm to be one of them myself, I want the other person to be barefoot, not me -- I always wear shoes.

@onewithshoes I know. You belabor that point pretty consistently.

@onewithshoes Just as a hypothetical (as you and your boyfriend seem to be perfect for each other), what do you think you would do if you dated a guy who was always barefoot, but also wanted you to go barefoot with him?

@southerncrossfire44
I really don't know. I suppose I'd try to bring him around, but I'd know it might not work out.
No resentment though. I'd try to hook him up with a barefoot girl.😉

@onewithshoes That's a very sweet answer, and a very mature way to handle relationship incompatibility.

@onewithshoes I don't think this idea of the appeal of the shoes/barefoot contrast is that out there. It's just far more common to see the inverse depicted: man in shoes and woman barefoot. Think of countless book covers and movie posters showing a manly booted hero with a barefoot damsel. Since such things are done to draw attention and encourage sales, there must be some broad, if mostly subconscious, appeal to the shoes/barefoot contrast.

@southerncrossfire44 That has certainly been true in recent decades, but from what I've seen and read, it represents an odd reversal of societal expectations that seems to have happened at just about the midpoint of the previous century. In earlier times it was much more common for boys to be barefoot, and less acceptable for girls. Fashion changes can be a fascinating study.😏

@onewithshoes There probably has been a change in societal expectations, though even in the past, I'm sure barefoot norms varied by nation, region, and social class. It also seems barefooting by anyone (at least in public) is less acceptable today than it was in the past. It can still be done, of course, but it's certainly not a common practice. Do you ever feel like you were born several decades too late, and you would prefer to have lived at a time when barefoot boys were everywhere?

@southerncrossfire44 Yes, very much so.

@southerncrossfire44


If she bases her important relationships on the basis of this preference, it is no longer a preference, but a fetish controlling her life.

@SomeMichGuy
Perhaps, but if such things make us more understanding and compassionate about the things that haunt the lives of others, then perhaps they are a blessing.

@onewithshoes lol But you just said you would NOT change! smh

@SomeMichGuy I think it just means that she is honest about her wants and boundaries in a relationship, even if it is fetishistic. Also, I do believe that not harboring resentment and trying to help the other person meet a more suitable partner is very mature.