Mr.. I am a Dom.. or.. I am YOUR Dom and you will call me Sir… *Sigh
But Today have you
Encouraged your target sub to address you as Sir without demanding it? Because spending too little time acting as a Dom causes a loss of the right to make demands. Like a parent who was never there and then demands that a child respect them as a parent. Like a parent who gave a child up for adoption and then seeks them when they need a bone marrow transplant.
Today have you
provided a desirable task to the sub? Whether it be desirable for the sub or yourself makes little difference as long as someone actually desires it. But one must keep in mind that an orgasm is not necessarily enjoyable for a sub and suggesting otherwise is offensive. I’ve had issue with Doms who would assign a task for no reason and that no one desires. If obedience turns a Dom on, then let them please talk to someone else. Yet sometimes a task is just meant as a statement that they are a Dom, but I don’t have the interest to perform for their insecurities. I can sense certain energies and it’s a shame when a “Dom”’s energy is not dominant. I am not insensitive to weakness or doubt, I am insensitive to anyone trying to fool me into believing they are confident and dominant. Sometimes the energy I feel from them says, “Please do as I say” or “Are you going to obey?” or “I know that you aren’t going to but I’m going to pretend that you are.” I’m not trying to read anyone’s mind, I don’t mean to feel the negative energy from them. I don’t say anything because I am terrified that the insecurities and bluffing behaviors will only get worse. And then maybe I make it worse by accidentally ignoring the Dom, because internally I can’t hear them and all that reaches me is the insecure energy.
Today have you
been available to the sub and not as an afterthought at the end of your day? Subs kind of enjoy being considered as more important than something rather being contacted when a Dom has nothing else to do. But no, I don’t want to be contacted out of obligation either, so just forget it.
If you had talked to the sub, then what was the nature of the conversation? What was said doesn’t matter, but the energy does. It’s okay to have a casual conversation and it’s okay to vent about difficulties, but is the Dom still a Dom, or has the sub been abandoned for the duration of that conversation. It’s disorienting to experience friendly energy and then suddenly experiencing demands that are uncalled for, because a simple “Yes” between friends is unacceptable. You need to tell me when you become a Dom again instead of making me feel like I’m unacceptable. I shouldn’t have to feel abandoned in order to be supportive. I’d been appreciative of times when I could be in the same vicinity with someone and no one speaks at all. The appreciation and understanding of silence is good. I can sense that someone asks about my day but doesn’t actually care, he’s only asking in order to seek a way to offer dominance. I understand, but my feeling is.. “your dominance hasn’t been pretty nonexistent, so there’s no need to strain yourself to provide a few insufficient drops.” What is a few drops of water to someone who feels dehydrated? What is a minute of attention for someone who feels otherwise abandoned? A Dom can be there calling everyday, talking multiple times a day.. and yet is never actually there for the sub. I think that maybe he’s only there for himself and I lose interest in having any conversation at all. But of course, that leads to the accusation that I can’t be that antisocial and so I must be talking to others. Actually, often the wrong energy drains me and I don’t have the energy to talk to anyone at all. But not talking doesn’t recover any energy, only the presence of dominant energy can help.. so eventually I’ll talk to others in order to get that energy recovery that I need. When a Dom asks who I’ve been talking to is when I realize that I’ve talked to absolutely no one because my energy is depleted to the point that I don’t even have the energy to try talking to anyone else. So maybe I should stay just like that.. submissively drained, socially drained, and feeling like my existence is drained.
Some people are detrimental as being a drain of my precious energy. The only thing that can actually be helpful is talking to a genuine person when their words and their energy are matching, because then I’m not straining myself trying to detect why it doesn’t match.
I’ve previously talked to a Dom keep insisting that he’s a Dom, but I was sensing submission from him the whole time. When he wanted to know what I thought about him, telling him that he’s submissive was offensive to him, so he tried even harder. He was so adamant that I started to think I could be wrong. I tried to believe him, but I couldn’t say anything else except that his energy is submissive. It turns out that I was right, because he admitted it eventually. It’s not that he was a switch.. , I wish that was the case, but I didn’t sense any dominant energy from him at all.
I think that maybe I’m not communicating what my needs are, yet I’ve done many posts. At some point it must be better to just be alone. It may be better to be alone in order to not have to deal with anyone who is pretending. Feeling people’s true energy that doesn’t match who they want me to think they are… that’s what’s draining me. I like genuine people, because they don’t rob me of energy I end up using to try to believe them and then end up unintentionally opening myself up more to examine their energy more closely. Opening myself up to negative energy is like a powerful vacuum that sucks up everything in the area its pointed at. When I have a sense of hearing or feeling a vacuum, I shouldn’t try harder to sense it. Maybe I should just call people liars and move on.
And right now I don’t want to hear from a Dom. Not a single one of them, unless its Master Lee. If any other Dom comments, then I will delete it.
Encouraged your target sub to address you as Sir without demanding it? Because spending too little time acting as a Dom causes a loss of the right to make demands. Like a parent who was never there and then demands that a child respect them as a parent. Like a parent who gave a child up for adoption and then seeks them when they need a bone marrow transplant.
Today have you
provided a desirable task to the sub? Whether it be desirable for the sub or yourself makes little difference as long as someone actually desires it. But one must keep in mind that an orgasm is not necessarily enjoyable for a sub and suggesting otherwise is offensive. I’ve had issue with Doms who would assign a task for no reason and that no one desires. If obedience turns a Dom on, then let them please talk to someone else. Yet sometimes a task is just meant as a statement that they are a Dom, but I don’t have the interest to perform for their insecurities. I can sense certain energies and it’s a shame when a “Dom”’s energy is not dominant. I am not insensitive to weakness or doubt, I am insensitive to anyone trying to fool me into believing they are confident and dominant. Sometimes the energy I feel from them says, “Please do as I say” or “Are you going to obey?” or “I know that you aren’t going to but I’m going to pretend that you are.” I’m not trying to read anyone’s mind, I don’t mean to feel the negative energy from them. I don’t say anything because I am terrified that the insecurities and bluffing behaviors will only get worse. And then maybe I make it worse by accidentally ignoring the Dom, because internally I can’t hear them and all that reaches me is the insecure energy.
Today have you
been available to the sub and not as an afterthought at the end of your day? Subs kind of enjoy being considered as more important than something rather being contacted when a Dom has nothing else to do. But no, I don’t want to be contacted out of obligation either, so just forget it.
If you had talked to the sub, then what was the nature of the conversation? What was said doesn’t matter, but the energy does. It’s okay to have a casual conversation and it’s okay to vent about difficulties, but is the Dom still a Dom, or has the sub been abandoned for the duration of that conversation. It’s disorienting to experience friendly energy and then suddenly experiencing demands that are uncalled for, because a simple “Yes” between friends is unacceptable. You need to tell me when you become a Dom again instead of making me feel like I’m unacceptable. I shouldn’t have to feel abandoned in order to be supportive. I’d been appreciative of times when I could be in the same vicinity with someone and no one speaks at all. The appreciation and understanding of silence is good. I can sense that someone asks about my day but doesn’t actually care, he’s only asking in order to seek a way to offer dominance. I understand, but my feeling is.. “your dominance hasn’t been pretty nonexistent, so there’s no need to strain yourself to provide a few insufficient drops.” What is a few drops of water to someone who feels dehydrated? What is a minute of attention for someone who feels otherwise abandoned? A Dom can be there calling everyday, talking multiple times a day.. and yet is never actually there for the sub. I think that maybe he’s only there for himself and I lose interest in having any conversation at all. But of course, that leads to the accusation that I can’t be that antisocial and so I must be talking to others. Actually, often the wrong energy drains me and I don’t have the energy to talk to anyone at all. But not talking doesn’t recover any energy, only the presence of dominant energy can help.. so eventually I’ll talk to others in order to get that energy recovery that I need. When a Dom asks who I’ve been talking to is when I realize that I’ve talked to absolutely no one because my energy is depleted to the point that I don’t even have the energy to try talking to anyone else. So maybe I should stay just like that.. submissively drained, socially drained, and feeling like my existence is drained.
Some people are detrimental as being a drain of my precious energy. The only thing that can actually be helpful is talking to a genuine person when their words and their energy are matching, because then I’m not straining myself trying to detect why it doesn’t match.
I’ve previously talked to a Dom keep insisting that he’s a Dom, but I was sensing submission from him the whole time. When he wanted to know what I thought about him, telling him that he’s submissive was offensive to him, so he tried even harder. He was so adamant that I started to think I could be wrong. I tried to believe him, but I couldn’t say anything else except that his energy is submissive. It turns out that I was right, because he admitted it eventually. It’s not that he was a switch.. , I wish that was the case, but I didn’t sense any dominant energy from him at all.
I think that maybe I’m not communicating what my needs are, yet I’ve done many posts. At some point it must be better to just be alone. It may be better to be alone in order to not have to deal with anyone who is pretending. Feeling people’s true energy that doesn’t match who they want me to think they are… that’s what’s draining me. I like genuine people, because they don’t rob me of energy I end up using to try to believe them and then end up unintentionally opening myself up more to examine their energy more closely. Opening myself up to negative energy is like a powerful vacuum that sucks up everything in the area its pointed at. When I have a sense of hearing or feeling a vacuum, I shouldn’t try harder to sense it. Maybe I should just call people liars and move on.
And right now I don’t want to hear from a Dom. Not a single one of them, unless its Master Lee. If any other Dom comments, then I will delete it.
36-40, F
