I think I am bi, but i'm not sure how much.

I have been having a lot of fantasies about men, but I don't feel attracted to them. It's more the idea of having sex with a man and being a bottom that really interests me. So it's purely sexual, but no romantic interests in men at all. Not to mention the fact that I am a very nerveus and anxious person who has trouble trying out new things, especially sexual things. Does anyone have certain tips or just advice on what could help me take the plunge?

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HootyTheNightOwl

Just because you fantasize about something doesn't make you bi... we are typically raised with the idea that we will marry someone of the opposite sex and procreate because we need to procreate for the survival of our species.

Considering this, it is possible that you see this as "taboo" - which could be driving your fantasies.

If you're going to take that plunge, then it might be better to experiment with butt plugs before you go looking for men to ensure that you can accommodate him without injuring yourself when the time comes.

Crazycoral84 · 36-40, M

@HootyTheNightOwl Which is why I said that I think I am, because I haven tried anything yet. Maybe I'm pan or maybe i'm just straight with certain m/m fantasies. And I don't really see it as taboo, my family has always raised me to be a person who accepts people with all types of sexualities or interests (as long as it doesn't hurt other people).

I'm just a person who has the tendency to overthink things and keeps second guessing himself.

Curiosity13 · 51-55, M

I know the feeling

Shinyme · 41-45, M

I'm exactly the same.

Northwest · M

Why do you need help? Try dating apps, with all the appropriate cautions, of course. And be safe out there.

Crazycoral84 · 36-40, M

@Northwest I was hoping for certain tips or hints, because i'm the type of person who keeps overthinking things and keeps talking himself out of trying new things (especially of the social/intimate type).

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