I envy soft women.

Not in a malicious way at all.

I just can't be that. I'm not soft. My life isn't soft, it's never been soft.

Every time I've tried to be soft I've been eaten alive.

And I know that's why I'm left out of feminine solidarity.

There's just things I can't change.

So I accept my place. By myself.

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Abraxas · 26-30, M

You seem reallly nice tho :)

Abraxas · 26-30, M

@Abraxas Lol I types this comment really late last night, without much thought put into it.

What I wanna say more in depths is that despite me only having a little bit of interaction with you, you seem warm, and kind. You seem like an easy person to be around, and someone who i'd probably open up to. That really is what soft is. Maybe there is some specific demeanor you wanna emulate, but i'm saying that FROM WHATI KNOW AND SEE you have it inside already

cherny

You can be both soft and strong
You can be both for you and your son
I've learned I'm both

EldritchFox · 41-45, F

@cherny I try to be soft but it always comes from a place of steel not softness. It's an alchemy of it's own.

cherny

@EldritchFox and that's really okay too .. you aren't doing anything wrong

Lovelooking · 41-45, MNew

Standing up for yourself and believes isnt being soft

EldritchFox · 41-45, F

@Lovelooking nobody said that

HijabaDabbaDoo · F

Actual solidarity doesn't exclude other women just because there's a difference in personality. I mean sure, not everyone's gonna connect as friends which is normal but solidarity isn't earned, much like respect.
It's a basic exchange. Losing it is separate and you've done nothing to lose it.

EldritchFox · 41-45, F

@HijabaDabbaDoo l am gently excluded. And that's okay, I accept it, I admire women that share it. It's just hard to watch from the outside sometimes. If I could be soft I could be not alone.

Selah ·

What does soft mean? I think you're pretty soft imo. I think you're just very attached to certain ideas about yourself.

EldritchFox · 41-45, F

@Selah being calm, gentle, nurturing and peaceful. I think I'm not soft because I'm always in pain, always pushing. I don't have the luxury of safety so it's not so much an idea about myself as it is I don't have a choice of who I get to be.

If I'm soft docs don't take me seriously. If I'm soft my son doesn't get the help he needs. If I'm soft I get crushed because I have no backup. My kindness doesn't come from my heart, it comes from understanding what it's like to be treated like crap.

moonlightlullaby · 46-50, F

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