Was I wrong if someone's wife came and danced with me and ended up grooving ?

Grooving, grinding, whatever--she shouldn't presume to do that, especially in front of her husband. I have no problem asking men to dance with me, but they get returned to their wives uncompromised. Never have I had such a problem as yours with their wives sitting out the dance, not even with slow, dreamy dances. The men I ask seem delighted I made the first move.

I loved watching my wife dance with guys . I was always a poor dancer , she loved dancing .
Yes, I especially enjoyed those slow dances too .

Maybe he wasn’t watching with jealous eyes…maybe he was taking in her beauty as an outsider?

Yes. You were wrong. Actually, both you and the woman were wrong.

Maybe it was the tent in your pants