Should people have some experiences
before marrying someone? I say this having married the first man that touched me sexually
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WellFrog · 56-60, M
There is no simple answer here. Knowing your desires, whether from experience or fantasizing, does by no means guarantee that your spouse will actually be on board with maintaining these desires. If you experience acts that you desire before marriage, you can have at least felt the acts in reality if they disappear after the rings arrive.
Yet at once, having that experience come to a halt can lead to bitter resentment. If you never knew some desirable acts "in the flesh", can you truly miss them?
Of course some spouses are well matched sexually, which can have them thrive intimately regardless of experience levels.
I will share that some first time experiences can arrive ages after marriage, though often with others than one's spouse. I had a married lover once who's husband of 20 years had stopped having sex with her after 10 years.
He was the only man with whom she had previously EVER been sexually intimate and while she was well experienced with giving oral, she had never felt the overwhelming sensations of receiving oral sex. This was a most welcome new experience in addition to taking her first lover!
Yet at once, having that experience come to a halt can lead to bitter resentment. If you never knew some desirable acts "in the flesh", can you truly miss them?
Of course some spouses are well matched sexually, which can have them thrive intimately regardless of experience levels.
I will share that some first time experiences can arrive ages after marriage, though often with others than one's spouse. I had a married lover once who's husband of 20 years had stopped having sex with her after 10 years.
He was the only man with whom she had previously EVER been sexually intimate and while she was well experienced with giving oral, she had never felt the overwhelming sensations of receiving oral sex. This was a most welcome new experience in addition to taking her first lover!