When I was younger I couldn't get past my feelings of lonelyness

When people talk about “loneliness,” they don’t just mean being physically alone. It’s more about feeling disconnected, as if they don’t have anyone they can really talk to or trust.
You can be surrounded by people at school, at home, or online, and still feel lonely if you don’t feel understood or supported.

For many boys and men, loneliness starts with the messages we hear growing up. A lot of us are told to “be tough,” “man up,” or “deal with it yourself.”
Even if no one says those exact words, we see it in movies, in sports, or in how adults ahead of us act.

Over time, we learn that showing emotions is something we should avoid. When you’re taught not to talk about your feelings, it becomes harder to open up, even to close friends. That means friendships can stay fun and friendly on the surface, but not very deep underneath.

Another part of this is how boys (males) often make friends.
Many friendships between boys are built around activities and things like that.
Playing games.
Playing sports.
Hanging out with the crew.

We do that shit instead of talking about the personal shit.
Those things can all be great, but if you never talk about what’s bothering you, your feelings. your needs and desires..., (like most men never do) it’s easy to feel like no one really knows you.


Some men end up relying on just one person, like a girlfriend or a best friend, for emotional support. If that relationship changes, the loneliness can hit really hard. Trust me when I say to you here and now, "I KNOW!"

The life we all live today all adds to this phenomenom.
People spend more time online, there are fewer places to hang out in person, and schedules get busy.
Who can really blame us for seeking out these ghostly and sometimes ghastly friendships we tend to nurture here at SW and act like we're all real people with real care for each other?
Who can blame us for feeling hurt when someone you thought you were cool with tells you they think it's best if they don't interact with you anymore?
Or feeling slighted when we see someone and would like to be friends with them but they block us and call us creepy AF on the way out?
Stack a few of them up on the same day and see where that leaves your head???

All of it makes it harder for us as humans to form close connections. But it’s important to remember that loneliness isn’t just a male thing.
Girls and women feel it too. it’s a human thing, not a gender thing.
16% of guys - 15% of women

It's my personal belief that the 1% difference isn't much but goes to show a slight bit more nurturing on the females side of it when it comes to friendships.
I also strongly believe that men are underreporting for fear of being thought of as WEAK inside of their own heads.

A simple way to picture it is to imagine carrying a heavy backpack. If you’re told never to ask for help, the backpack feels heavier and heavier. If you don’t tell anyone what’s inside it, they can’t help lessen the load by taking things from it.

Many boys grow up being told to carry their backpack alone, and that’s where Male loneliness begins.

It begins in a different place for girls.
But this wasn't about that.

But again, I am nobody and my thoughts placed to word do not matter and likely make little sense to most people.

I'm pretty much just typing the shit inside my head because I'm bored at home on a Friday night and I got me some thoughts about loneliness....

Peace