I have a crush....

I have a crush on a co-worker. I returned back to work at the company after being away for a bit, and he's still there.
Sexy. Intelligent. Strong. Funny. Hard worker. Dedicated. Loyal.

I liked him before but he hated me until he got to know me. My....bluntness was offensive to him at first meeting.

Anyway, I'm back and he's delighted. Pretty sure He has more than friendly feelings toward me because when I was away a mutual friend liked to mention him, specifically his relationship and how it was going or, not going.

He called me after he got off work today, he used some lame ass excuse to make the call but whenever I tried to let him go, he kept asking me mundane questions. He had obviously drank some liquid courage to make the cal, or maybe, he was just trying to relax and I'm making more of it than it is.

Would love to go out for after work drinks with him... I have a feelin/fantasies that he's a fantastic kisser!

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Northwest · M

Workplace romances are really tricky. Especially with someone who may be on the rebound.

BawseBaby · F

@Northwest very true. I think at the most I would just like to flirt, I love business and the organic animal that it is.
Have always believed business never mixes with pleasure. Fun is always o the menu though...

Northwest · M

@BawseBaby There's nothing wrong with flirting, at the risk of sending the wrong message, so it's a bit tricky.

The problem with workplace romances is the unpredictability of humans, combined with the inevitability of having to see that person after things go sideways. This is particularly important if you like your job.

BawseBaby · F

@Northwest I love my job. You sound as if you're speaking from experience...?

Northwest · M

@BawseBaby As in I've seen what happens when colleagues do it? Yes.

Tempting as it may be, I never did even though my company was like a dating site. There were law suits (sexual harassment and people called in as witnesses in divorce cases), discrimination lawsuits, etc.

As a male, I've also been extremely sensitive to workplace harassment, and realize that women should not be subjected to attention they may not want (intended or not). They're there for the same reason I was: work and advance my career. I've seen some really ugly behavior from male colleagues.

I've dated women I've "worked" with.

BawseBaby · F

@Northwest well, perhaps if the circumstances are right and maturity exists, it might be a positive experience.
I guess I'm too old to worry much about advancing my career and more interested in experiencing life
Appreciate the reply and enjoyed reading it 😊
Thank you

Northwest · M

@BawseBaby You're young, and there's no age limit on advancing one's career. Advancing one's career and experiencing life are not mutually exclusive (my personal experience, your mileage may vary :-))