I'd Rather Get To Know You Than Small Talk
I hate small talk. I find it difficult to keep thinking of "stuff" to talk about. Constant questioning and chatting is enough to drive me absolutely insane. I fear that I will say something ignorant or tactless if I talk too much. I feel put on the spot if people ask me too many questions.
For this reason ( and other reasons I won't bore you with ) I do not enjoy parties or social gatherings. I will never be the sort of person who will add life to a dinner party. I have never been able to regale people with entertaining, fascinating stories. I also have never been good at telling jokes or making people laugh. I have never been able to think of witty responses to things people say to me. I am extremely awkward and uncomfortable in these kinds of social interactions. Further, these activities don't interest me or have any appeal to me.
However, I am not a complete antisocial snob. I am interested in learning about people and hearing their life stories. I always pay attention and remember what people share with me about themselves. Many people are amazed when I can recall so many details about their lives. They don't realize that I pay attention and have a good memory. I would actually much rather listen to your life story than tell you mine ( the latter is incredibly dull and depressing ).
I tend to ask people a lot of questions. My intention is never to embarrass people or put them on the spot. It comes out of what I refer to as respectful curiosity. I am genuinely interested, and I won't judge you. If there is something you would rather not discuss, then I will respect that and not continue to press the issue.
The reason I don't like to be around people who ask me a lot of questions is most people use my answers as a basis to lecture me or give me a lot of annoying unsolicited advice. I think the main reason I despise small talk is that I feel put on the spot.
For this reason ( and other reasons I won't bore you with ) I do not enjoy parties or social gatherings. I will never be the sort of person who will add life to a dinner party. I have never been able to regale people with entertaining, fascinating stories. I also have never been good at telling jokes or making people laugh. I have never been able to think of witty responses to things people say to me. I am extremely awkward and uncomfortable in these kinds of social interactions. Further, these activities don't interest me or have any appeal to me.
However, I am not a complete antisocial snob. I am interested in learning about people and hearing their life stories. I always pay attention and remember what people share with me about themselves. Many people are amazed when I can recall so many details about their lives. They don't realize that I pay attention and have a good memory. I would actually much rather listen to your life story than tell you mine ( the latter is incredibly dull and depressing ).
I tend to ask people a lot of questions. My intention is never to embarrass people or put them on the spot. It comes out of what I refer to as respectful curiosity. I am genuinely interested, and I won't judge you. If there is something you would rather not discuss, then I will respect that and not continue to press the issue.
The reason I don't like to be around people who ask me a lot of questions is most people use my answers as a basis to lecture me or give me a lot of annoying unsolicited advice. I think the main reason I despise small talk is that I feel put on the spot.
41-45, F
