I'd Rather Get To Know You Than Small Talk

It’s so difficult to find someone online (especially dating sites) that wants and can hold a deep conversation! Small talk is good once in a while, but getting into conversations that dig deeper tell more.

Maybe it’s because people are afraid to be vulnerable after being hurt? But, if you want to find love, you have to allow yourself to be vulnerable and find the one that will nurture that. Not an easy task! I’m still working on that myself...

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PhoenixPhail · M

It seems difficult to find someone [i]anywhere[/i] who wants to hold a deep conversation. And the dating sites are a world of their own. From my experience, they're more about satisfying images and accommodating criteria - people looking for people who's demons play well with theirs - than seeking true relationships.

Yes, people ARE afraid to be vulnerable. But the subject matter of deep conversation needn't necessarily include anything so personal as to [i]require[/i] vulnerability. That is, unless it's engaging in deep conversation, itself, that's frightening.

People are going to be only as vulnerable with others as they're willing to be with themselves. And, as Carl Jung so eloquently put it, "People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own soul."

Would you care to take a chance on the possibility of my nurturing your vulnerability in the course of any conversation you might care to have? No judgements or criticisms. I promise.