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Meeting new people is difficult...

It already begins by not really knowing what I'm hoping to find other than a break from being alone almost 24/7. But I open a dating app anyway, and see that what others want are mostly some generic labels like traveling, conversations, kids. That doesn't tell me anything, so should I just roll the dice on whether to message them or not? And if I do feel some initial attraction for whatever reason, those generic introductions only allow for a generic conversation starter that will most likely be ignored.

I'm not a person to go to bars on my own either and if I did, I'd run into same problem: all I'll know about someone before talking to them is what they look like and that's such a shallow conversation starter it's doomed before it begins.

And if I miraculously would get to interact with someone for more than a few minutes, people my age just want to know if our goals are compatible. They don't want to try all kinds of things to learn if I'll enjoy them or not. It feels like I'm too late to get out of this loneliness.
What clubs are available in your area???

Maybe, instead of going out to pubs or whatever, you could look at starting or joining a club around your interests to get you out of the house and give you a starting point in what you can talk to him or her about.

If you're at a computer group, it's safe to say that they're into computers, too. At the very least, you may be able to find new friends who could be into you or have that friend who's just going to love you.

Remember, most relationships are just great friendships that bloomed into something more.
@NerdyPotato They did take quite a bit at that blood draw, (4 or 5 bottles)... so maybe that's why I felt poorly, because it never happened when I got blood drawn at the surgery - which is my preferred place to go because there's a lady there who knows how to get blood out of me using a fine needle. In this case, a different woman was struggling to hit a vein and I didn't want her trying the other side because I had to get more blood drawn the following day.

I told her that if she didn't hit the vein the third time, she could write the bag and I'd get it drawn with the others the following day. I didn't like doing that, but I had to leave the other phlebotomist a chance to hit blood without going in at my wrist.

Even though I went through Covid with my man... I'm still not 100% certain that I would make it through infection without a vaccine because of my bp and asthma. Then I'm thinking that I'm a carer, I need it in that capacity because there's no one to step in for me - and, what if I leave over winter???

Being homeless or living in a hotel/refuge is going to come with increased risk of exposure - but, on the whole, my overall thinking is still in Camp "No, Thank you". I'm just gambling on the fact that they don't start turning away unvaccinated people anywhere along the way.
@HootyTheNightOwl That's a real dilemma. As vaccines don't prevent spread, the only reason to (sort of) mandate it is to prevent too many workers ending up unable to work for months. (An equal valid reason, don't get me wrong on that.) But if in rare cases like yours, the vaccine itself is likely to make you unable to work for quite a while, giving you the choice between taking the jab or getting fired is doing exactly what the mandate is meant to prevent. An exception in such cases is the only reasonable way to go. But then again, that requires insight and flexibility, and most companies and institutions are more comfortable with one rule for all.
@NerdyPotato All considered... I still don't see much of a compelling reason to be vaccinated again, to be fair.

It's not like I'm going to get fired if I don't - the only thing that could happen is that Covid kills me or I get "Long Covid"... my quality of life isn't all that great regardless of if I get long covid or not. So I'm not really sacrificing a huge deal.

I've known for years that I'm not fit to work... even before I was finally accepted as a carer and I'm not getting better - so, in one way, getting sick with Covid and getting long Covid may be a blessing for me, since there's more help for the disabled than there is for people living with domestic abuse.

It's depressing me to be like this every day and want an official diagnosis as to what I have - but, at the same time, I don't because I don't want to force myself through one of those stupid "Work Capability Assessment"... at least, not before they stop lying on the forms and more weight is given to what medical professionals say.
Best of luck. I found my current lady online and we have been together for about five years. You may go through some bad ones before you find the right one though. at least that was the case with me. went on some terrible dates before i got lucky.
Sounds like you need to drop the idea and shift to being a couch potato over weekends n keep posting on SW while munching!
silliness78 · 46-50
Totally agree

 
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