Do you think joking at someone else’s expense is funny?

I met a new acquaintance and their way of joking is making rude comments. Ordered a decaf coffee and the first joke was, “yeah you don’t need any more caffeine”. Second joke was a garbage truck drove by the cafe and I asked, “what’s that smell”, they then replied with, “YOU”! Looking back it was funny, but in the moment I was definitely not laughing. Keep in mind the is only the second time I’ve hung out with this person.

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Piper · 61-69, F

Rarely. There is a usually a pretty big discernable difference between good-natured "joking" among people, and someone simply being obnoxious.

DecafD

@Piper strongly agree

BigBulge · 41-45, M

I can still hear my long dead mother saying, "We're not laughing at you, we're laughing WITH you," while I was crying.

DecafD

@BigBulge awwww!! 🫂

Peapod · 61-69, F

@BigBulge I had the same mother. Her humor was never funny to me.

Peapod · 61-69, F

These people have no place in my life. Seriously, I grew up with those kind of backhanded comments and have little tolerance for them now.

DecafD

@Peapod it does get old fast! People have lost the art of “reading the room”. If people aren’t laughing, then check yourself!

SW-User

I’ve got an acquaintance who is the same. It’s sort of sad but I avoid her now mostly because it just gets on my nerves.

DecafD

@SW-User I’m glad you commented. At first I thought maybe I was being too sensitive, but it just doesn’t feel that great. She’s constantly saying, “I’m joking, I’m joking” and part of me wants to say, “Hun- if you see me not laughing and constantly find yourself having to explain that you’re joking, then what does that tell you? You’re not funny!”.

SW-User

@DecafD some people can’t communicate properly and it’s their way. I can appreciate our differences but it doesn’t mean I have to put up with that crap.

DecafD

@SW-User exactly! Kindness is universal, yet people can be so unkind in how they choose to communicate. I don’t get it!

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