You ever felt like you wanna shake someone so they'll realize they don't have to do things a certain way?

Some posts I see are so rhetorical, it's like people are fishing for compliments. It's obvious.

I mean I understand it matters. Sometimes we need to hear good things about ourselves. But some do it with dignity and grace, others just...I don't know. I just feel like us girls could do better.
Maybe there's a culture difference or something. But there's a difference between asking for advice so we could improve ourselves and asking for someone to flirt with you. It's like a cheap disguise and it undervalues the purpose of the site for me.

Maybe some of you think the same, or maybe not.

But from one girl to another, don't downgrade yourself. You can be more.

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

I think… 🤔 the beauty of this site is people can post whatever they want within reason and if I genuinely dislike their posts I have the option to block or mute them, which frees up my feed without shushing them.

I don’t ‘disagree with your op’, but Just to play devils advocate here for a sec, if you believe the issue is they lack self-worth then making belittling assumptions wouldn’t exactly ‘lift them up’ or be helpful to them. If anything, it announces that you as ‘better than other women’ because you don’t do abcd-arbitrarily-in the-grand-scheme-of-things.

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@WhateverWorks I see your point. Maybe I wasn't really being kind in this post. It was more of a vent, a ranting if you will. That's why it's tagged as upset.
But I appreciate your honesty.
Thank you for telling me.

See, I usually come here to relax and unwind. So seeing those posts just made me feel ughh...and yes I do use the block and mute functions. I just did on one of those posts actually.

The thing is we all have our standards we try to reach for ourselves and standards we use to decide the people that we let in our circle. It's inevitable that our way of thinking and standards could crash with those of others. Some posts are offensive to the standards I live by, or I feel they don't help my effort to becoming who I want to be. That's why I block and mute.

Each to one's own choices for who he/she strives to be.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I hear you. On a personal level, I agree with your values. If nothing else, I feel like one of the most important rules of SW ‘you can’t please everybody‘. I recall a rando making some jab on one of my health posts where I think I was babbling about my weight. They implied how semi charmed my life must be if that my greatest concern, that I was superficial. (Not up to their standards) my reaction? “Boo-fncking-hoo. 🤷🏻‍♀️ You don’t know me. It’s not my job to make sure that everything I write is a thesis in the making or an existential quandary” 🤭@Casheyane