I Don't Want to Get Married

I have no doubts that my mother and father loved each other. But the majority of my childhood consisted of listening to them bicker over petty things. Luckily it was never anything serious like infidelity or physical abuse, but listening to your parents argue for 20 years happens to alter your perception on love and marriage. I grew up believing it was normal. It was normal for a man to be so verbally abusive to his wife, it was normal for a mother and father not being able to stand each other, and no affection or signs of love was completely accepted. I loved them both dearly, but as a bystander of their marriage I knew their issues from both sides, and always hoped id never end up in a marriage that caused that much pain. As I said, they did love each other, but my mother in particular always hated marriage, perhaps because my father was demanding and constantly degraded her. She once told me despite her unhappy times in her marriage, she didn't regret it, so for me, thats comforting to know, but still, I hope I dont end up in a marriage similar to my parents.

I Know in all marriages will consist of hate and arguments at times, its only natural. But so common? to the point where you tell each other horrible things that you can't take back and it ends up staining a piece of your relationship? I dont think so.